The $100 Chocolate Bar – Puttin’ it on the Line

Hi, guys!

 

With 3 weeks to go until our uber-active sea-kayaking vacation, my husband and I are in a desperate race to get in shape.  More specifically, we want to trade in our round jiggly shapes for something a wee bit more toned and svelte.
 

After devouring half a bag of marshmallows with complimentary graham crackers and chocolate during this past weekend’s camping trip, I could not have been more delighted to hear that my husband was on board for a new gut-and-butt-busting routine. We were drawing the line in the sand and together it was time to trade in comfort and our ever expanding waistlines for a new commitment to health and a smaller booty.

 

While Dr. Phil would advise we take on a “no-fail environment”, removing all offending substances from crackers to ketchup in support of our weight-loss effort, we decided to live on the edge, going for more of a “temptation and decadence around every corner environment.”  When we arrived home from camping I handed Jeff the marshmallows and remaining Hershey bar from the weekend’s fire-side revelry and unceremoniously request that he toss them in the trash.  To this he replied, “Let’s keep them in the freezer until our next camping trip.  But the catch is we can’t touch them until then. Anyone who eats the s’mores fixings between now and then pays a $100 fine!”  We shook on it and then added limits on wine consumption and made a commitment to forgo desert until our next s’mores –gasbord 2 weeks hence!
 

We started well. Monday we were up at 6 am for our run. Jeff rocked it, going 4 miles while I wogged (walk-jogged) 3, just happy to be awake to greet the gorgeous morning outside.  A sensible dinner of couscous and spicy- kale (It really was better than it sounds) and we were off to the races!

Tuesday morning we were up again at 6 am, and began with our normal warm-up chat on the way to the trail, when I innocently asked my sweet husband how he ate the day before. 
 

 

“Ok” he responded with a little shrug.  

I look over, interested, “Ok?” I asked, with one eyebrow cocked. “What was just ‘ok’ about it?”
A sheepish look came over his face as he revealed the reason for the “ok”.  

“I had a Clark Bar after lunch.” He grinned.

“Ohhhhhhh! I hope it was good.” I grinned with zeal. “Please do not pass go.  Please deposit $100 into the savings account at your earliest convenience.”

 

He put up an honest fight, protesting that his chocolate transgression was not the s’mores stuff in the freezer, nor was it “dessert” because everyone knows that “dessert” only comes after dinner J .  However, after a lighthearted conversation we both agreed that it made no sense for freezer and dinner sweets to be taboo while having a carte blanche on anything store-bought consumed before 5 pm.   And so he acquiesced, the savings account received an unexpected deposit and we both got one step closer to taking ourselves and our commitment to health seriously.

 
 
Commitment is more than just wanting or caring
 
 
I share this story as a demonstration of commitment and what it takes to actually be committed to something.  Many of my clients get to that point in the road where, despite their honest desire to make something happen in their lives, they come to a coaching conversation in exasperation,  explaining that they  “just didn’t do it”.  Whether the “IT” is getting up to go to the gym, following your schedule or refraining from mental self-flagellation, too often the best of intentions fall flat, and can even fall completely out of existence if we are left to our “business as usual” ways.
 
Often commitment to somethingtakes a lot more focus, and both internal and external support than we would imagine.  Even for the most experienced life-makers it usually takes more than a few heartfelt words to get started on a new habit or a new exciting/scary life adventure.
 
 

Doing What it Takes 

 
Is there a habit you want to start or something you really want to make happen in your life but to this point your efforts have proven unsuccessful? Here are a few questions to ask yourself to get better acquainted with what it is really going to take to deliver on your commitment to yourself and your life.
 
Ask yourself :
 
“What would it take to ensure that I follow through on what I said I would?”
 
 
And then …
 
”If my life depended on it, or my house depended on it, what would I be willing to do to ensure that I follow through?”
 
Would I be willing to look silly? (posting your commitment all over your house, in the car, in your wallet and written on a band on your wrist.)
 
Would I be willing to ask for support? (Asking your coworkers or boss to check to see if you are following through on leaving work on time and giving them permission to unplug your computer and send you home if that is what it takes!) 
 
Would I be willing to put something on the line? ($100 chocolate bar anyone?)
 
For Jeff and I our $100 fine system, combined with the moral support of a partner in crime, will produce more effortless results and greater overall success than leaving each of us to brave the candy aisle alone. And inevitably these little successes will lead us to greater ones that will ultimately escort us to a whole new lifestyle of health and skinny jeans.
 
Do you have something that you are willing to commit to?
 
Are you willing to go to uncommon lengths to ensure you follow through?
 
Declare yourself  here on the blog and begin today!
 
Life is for living, not for later and every moment is  a chance to make your life.

 

With Love (and an extra $100 ;-))

 

Coach  Joelle

 

Comments

  1. My self declaration: I commit myself to living out God’s calling for me – my vocation – every day of my life.

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