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How do I love him… Let me count the ways. 

I have often thought of sitting down to write this but never have, until now.  I sometimes hesitate to write because I wonder about what would be valuable to my community, or what will make a difference in the world, and sometimes I wonder what is really appropriate to put in this blog.  But I am turning over a new leaf. I will write here what I am compelled to write here and trust that it is just perfect.

So, today,  I want to express from the bottom of my soul that …

I LOVE MY HUSBAND!

Sigh. Some of you know the quest I went on to find myself so I could be found by my husband and some of you do not but let me tell you, it was intentional and well thought-out, it took some serious soul-searching it was totally worth it!

But I am not here to tell the tale of how we came to be, I am not even here to share what we are, I am just writing to say what is there for me. I love my husband. I love our life. I have nothing but such great excitement when I think of what we have in store for us as we grow and learn and create and love, together.

It is a gift that every time I look at his face it fills me with joy! I think he is so beautiful and I love the little lines around his eyes when he smiles (which of course he denies exist .  I love the way he challenges me to be the best I can be and the way he lifts me up when I am weary. I love the way we play together and the way he makes me laugh. I love the way we drive his sister crazy when we make out in public all the time!

I know that this is not the gushing of the newly-wed because we are still just learning how to be together. Just wait until we are celebrating our 10 year anniversary! Just imagine all we will know about serving each other then! Just imagine how we will play when we have 15 years of practice! Just imagine! When I sit in the appreciation of him and the joy he brings me and what it is like to bask in his love and appreciation and what it is like to feel truly cherished, it brings me to tears.

My invitation is to you single people out there.  Honor yourself enough to know what you want from a partner. Honor yourself enough to know yourself before you commit your life to another. Honor yourself to know that you do deserve great and uncompromising love. Know it is there for you.

With love,

Joelle

(Excerpt from the Livloud! Newsletter Issue # 2 Subscribe)

So for those of you who are really ready to livloud and are ready to take on being true to yourself…here are some practices for living loud!
 
1) Identify one or two words that you would use to describe you at your best or words that you feel embody the way you want to be in the world.
 
 EG. Confident and loving
 EG. Passionate and committed
 EG. Courageous and knowing
 
2) Act from these words:  Let’s imagine that the best version of you would be “courageous”. When confronted with a challenge or something you fear, being true to yourself, you would ask “what would “courage” do with this situation”.  Listen closely and then take action from your commitment to the courageous you.
 
3) Speak from these words:  Let’s imagine that your best self would be “confident”.  If you notice you are feeling self conscious about expressing yourself for fear of ridicule or embarrassment, remember your commitment to being true to yourself and in that moment, speak your mind from a place of confidence.
 
4) Choose from these words:  One of the great gifts in life is our ability to make choices. We can choose to speak or not speak, to love or not love, to take action or to not take action.  It may not always look like a choice but with practice you will notice that there is a moment between a thought about something and your response.  It is in that moment that you can insert your truth.  As an example, if your best self would be “loving”; then in that moment when someone you care about is grumpy with you, you get to choose, “lash out”, “retreat”, “ignore” ….”love”. 
 
If your commitment to yourself is at the forefront of your mind and if you make choices from that commitment, you will begin to see the expression of those choices in your life.
 
5) Live from these words: By choosing words such as  “love”, “courage”, “passion”, “commitment”,   that represent who you want to be in the world, and by consciously expressing them in everything you do, you become these words, to yourself and to the people around you.  If you walk in this world being “passionate” or “loving” or “courageous” in your word and in your action, it will not be long before your “passion”, “love” or “courage” permeates your relationships, your work, your leisure and actually becomes a regular and persistent way that you live your life.
 
Are you ready to begin Living Loud?
 
Then, I invite you to choose right now.  If you could live your life as an expression of any 2 or 3 words, what would those words be -  those words that embody the person you choose to be? Please write them below.
 
1) _____________________
2) _____________________
3) _____________________
 
Or even better yet, declare them in this blog!
 
Congratulations! You have your words and now, all there is to do is live them! That’s right, now your job is to, in the face of life, choose these words for every second of every day of your life until you are ready to pick some new ones.  You are welcome to choose something new whenever the spirit moves you but the point of it all is that it is your choice.
 
 
Carpe Diem my friend! Seize this day to Livloud! It is the only way to live!
 
I love you!
 
Coach Joelle
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