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Hi Gang!

 

Last week things felt a little heavy.

 

After years of being a coach I know that a little heaviness is OK. I do not have to be over-the-moon happy every second of the day and, as my mother says, “this too shall pass”.

 

It wasn’t anything particularly dramatic – I just felt a little “off”. I spent the week cracking jokes about how the recent solar flares were creating a disturbance in “The Force” and simply rode out the grey.

 

Over the weekend I was preparing for the March 20th launch of the Make Your Life Program by taking myself through the process that each new LifeMaker undertakes as they begin to uncover what they want to create and experience in their life from our time together.

 

Even though I have spent years with this process and practice and teach it daily, it always presents new surprises – and always the very best kind!

 

As I re-took the Make Your Life quiz and began filling out the accompanying “Prelude to a Dream” form a week of gloom began to lift.

 

With each question something new was unlocked and at some whole other level my very being reorganized itself.

 

Right there at the dining room table I witnessed the amazing process that unfolds when we focus and bring intention to our lives from a place of harmony, truth and light. And this is exactly why I created this program.

 

 

In a world of pressure, stress, fear and never-ending to do’s there is a more simple, more graceful and joyful way to live and each lesson of the Make Your Life program teaches you how to dance toward the future you want most while enjoying every juicy minute of the unfolding.

 

After delighting in the process of reconnection and grounding, the final question on the form brought the day’s journey to a head.

 

If you could fill in this blank with any word or words that best describe the life you would like to create, what word(s) would you use?

 

My __________________________ Life!

 

 

The answer sprang into my awareness without effort or resistance.

 

For the next two months as I support the new LifeMakers in creating their lives I will be living:

 

My Radiant Magical Life!

 

(Oh Ya Baby!)

 

As the forms roll in from those who will be joining me on the adventure, I get to glimpse into what is ahead for them.

 

One is creating her Joyful life!

 

Another A Healthy and Energized life!

 

Another A Balanced life.

 

And still another An Aligned and Peaceful life.

 

And this all from the pre-work form…. Look out Week 1 – Here we come!

 

What life will you make?

 

Join me for the adventure!

 

We begin Tuesday. Learn More

 

Joelle


 

 

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IT'S THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR!!

 

Yes, the holiday season is upon us but what is perhaps even more exciting than Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and New Year's all rolled together is….

 

wait for it… wait for it….

 

  PLANNING TIME!!!!!

 

  Seriously, I rarely have more fun than when I take a day just for me and my business, find a cozy spot, pull out the poster board, goals forms, charts, markers (you name it) and dig into creative planning and goal setting to launch a new project or, in this case, a new year!

 

Since I figure I am not the only one who loves to do this, I wanted to put an offer out to those of you in my tribe who are ready to create the vision for a new year and would like the support and partnership of a coach by your side.

 

So this holiday season, if you are an entrepreneur with big plans, or an individual who is ready for a year like no other, why not launch the year with your own VIRTUAL PLANNING RETREAT with me?!

 

I was in the Atlanta airport coming home from a foundation session with a new corporate client when I got the idea. You can check out the moment of epiphany below.

 

 

 

So here is the scoop.

 

What we are talking is a 4-hour intensive 1-on-1 virtual coaching retreat - you, me, your goals and your vision of the future and together we will create, plan and play our way to setting you up for a powerful year.

 

If you have Skype we can Skype it or if you are more of a phone person we can do that too. But basically you will have me at your service with all my ability, knowledge, tools and experience as a coach, entrepreneur, leader and life-maker.

 

For the holidays - and because this is probably my favorite way to spend an afternoon – the price for your retreat is a neat $800.00 ($400.00 savings) and that price lasts until all slots are taken or until I head for my own week-long wellness retreat the 3rd week in January (whichever comes first.)

 

There are 12 slots available so if you are interested in being one of my 12, call or email me to set up a launch session.  We will spend 30 minutes getting acquainted and getting a feel for what you want to create on the big day.  From there we will set up your retreat and we are off to the races!

 

To schedule your virtual coaching retreat just call me 216 320 9298

 

or

 

email me at joelle@coachjoelle.com

 

to set up our launch session and start getting those juices flowing for the big day!

 

Hope you are enjoying the bustle of the holidays and the excitement of the new year that awaits!

 

Joelle

 Hi guys!

 

I am so excited to share today’s Make Your Life Interview with you! 

 

My guest today is the founding editor of Experience Life Magazine, Pilar Gerasimo and she is one amazing woman with a message that will change your life.

 

As you hear the details of Pilar’s journey, you will be inspired by how her desire to create a different kind of health magazine (one that was not all about fad diets and 6-pack abs) and a willingness to take risks and take action set circumstances in motion to have her living a life that is best described as a dream come true.

 

Today as a result of Pilar’s desire to impact the health and vitality of the American public she has done nothing less than create her own revolution! 

 

In a world where fast food, chronic stress, prescription symptom-masking and a computer-to-couch lifestyle is the norm, and drinking green juice and meditating is considered “a little weird”, Pilar asserts that seeking health truly is a revolutionary act. 

 

Pilar’s new site www.revolutionaryact.com embodies this message and challenges the way our society is leaning, putting the knowledge (and hence, the power) back in your hands to choose to be revolutionary for the sake of your own health, vitality and longevity.

 

Whether you are inspired to take a new look at how you treat your body or you are moved to pursue your dreams, Pilar’s story is sure to empower you to Make Your Life  

  

Joelle

  

Make Your Life Interview with Pilar Gerasimo

 

 

 A little bit abopilar garasimo pictureut Pilar…

 

Pilar Gerasimo is the founding editor of Experience Life Magazine, a whole-person health and fitness magazine that reaches more than two million women and men nationwide.


But this magazine is different than a lot of what you will find out there in the world of health and fitness: No six-pack-abs sensationalism or bikini-body obsessions; no
diets or overnight miracle weight loss schemes; just the practical wisdom and real-life inspiration you need to achieve the healthy life goals that matter to YOU. 


Available on newsstands at Whole Foods and Barnes & Noble and also by subscription, Experience Life has won numerous awards and earned high praise from leading health experts, including Dr. Mehmet Oz. The magazine’s tagline — “Being Healthy Is a Revolutionary Act” — reflects one of Pilar’s deepest personal convictions: that choosing to be healthy in an unhealthy culture requires unconventional choices and perspectives, and that when you make that choice it positively transforms not just your own life, but the lives of everyone around you. 


Pilar’s central passion is empowering people to live their healthiest, most authentic lives so that they can give their best gifts — and thereby help change the world for the better. Pilar lives with her husband Zack and their three-legged pitbull on an organic cooperative family farm in western Wisconsin.

 

 

Listen Now! Coach Joelle Interviews Pilar Gerasimo

 

Download instructions: To listen, right click on the link above and select "Save Target As." Pick a folder to save your audio into.  Once the audio is saved to your hard drive you can upload it to your iPod or listen to it on your computer at your leisure. Note: Due to the file size, downloading may take a few moments. Deep breath… exhale… smile… ok, it will be there any moment now  ;-)

 

 

 

 

 

The Make Your Life Interview Series brings you visionaries, masters and everyday people who have discovered the magic available when you live on-purpose.  In each interview you will hear inspiring stories and gain practical insights to support you in reaching beyond your circumstances, accessing your personal power and creating a life in alignment with your values, dreams and aspirations.  To learn more about Coach Joelle go to www.coachjoelle.com

 


 

 


 

Hi gang,

 

We are a little more than a week into Q2 of 2011 and it’s about that time when the really ambitious, super-exciting ideas you had about your life in January may be seeming too fantastical, unrealistic, annoying or just plain depressing.

 

That’s the thing about goals and dreams. Unless you keep them close, visit them often, execute on a plan, and talk about them regularly, you may just find yourself months or even years into the future stunned by the realization that life didn’t turn out as you planned and that you are right back where you started, or even worse.

 

If you are feeling anything less than sparkly when it comes to those ambitions, goals and visions of the future, do not fear. I have a little process that can take you from listless to totally ready to rock in about 30 minutes flat.

 

In our last Life Makers MasterMind we checked in on everyone’s goals and walked through a series of questions to focus, empower and reinvigorate. I have included these questions for you.

 

So grab your goals, get your pen warmed up and reconnect to building your future, right now.

 

Joelle

 

 

Quarterly Goals Review

 

Give yourself 30 minutes to re-connect to your commitments, gain valuable insight and take action towards your 2011 goals.

 

 

Reality Check:

 

List your 2011 goals.

 

Record your current performance to goal.

 

Record the gap between where you are and where you intended to be by this time.

 

ie. Goal: $200,000/yr in sales. Actual: $100,000 in 3 months. $50,000 ahead

 

ie. Goal: weigh 140, feeling hot and healthy. Actual: Weigh 150. Lost 2 lbs in 3 months, have not yet developed the healthy habits to feel good every day and continue and sustain weight loss. 

 

 

What’s Working:

 

What are the successes you have experienced in the past 3 months – about your top goals and anything else you find significant?

 

What has worked/is working?

 

 

What’s not working:

 

Where did things not work?

 

Where/what situations or at what time did you find yourself falling down or moving in the wrong direction?

 

 

When you were connected to your goals and rocking it:

 

When did you feel really connected to your goal? What were you doing? What was happening in your life?

 

When were you feeling really disconnected to your goal? What were you doing? What was happening in your life?

 

 

Check in:

 

Are these still the right goals?

 

Why? Why not?

 

 

What you have learned and how you take that learning forward:

 

Based on your answers above – what are the things you already know work that you can put in place to support you in your goals?

 

 

Identify and manage for obstacles:

 

What are the potential obstacles or pitfalls that may come up in the future?

 

How can you manage for these pit falls through systems, process, plan, structure or rituals?

 

Note on rituals: The ritual of brushing our teeth morning and evening (or after meals) makes tooth hygiene a no-brainer. Do you need a daily green juice ritual or a show love to your spouse daily ritual or a weekly sales blitz ritual?

 

Note on planning to win: Remember we all like to feel like we are winning and moving forward. Is there a way you can track and celebrate baby steps?  Baby steps are all it takes to get anywhere you want to get and be anything you want to be.

 

 

Check your beliefs:

 

What old beliefs/fears would you like to remove to support future success?

 

What new belief would best support success?

 

 

Use Your Resources:

 

What (support/accountability/resources) could you ask for/seek out to ensure your success?

 

 

Get in action:

 

What action are you willing to commit to in support of your goals?

 

 

Nice Work! Now, using the insights gained through this exercise create your new execution plan, create the rituals, establish the new beliefs and reach out to get the needed support and accountability to have a breakthrough in achieving your goals!

 

Copyright ©2011 Coach Joelle, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

 

 How are you feeling? I am betting that right now you are reconnected to your goals, feeling empowered and seeing the action you can take to move your life forward (just a guess :-) )

 

We would love to hear about any new clarity you have gained or the new action you are ready to take so do not hesitate to comment below.

 

Here’s to a powerful Q2, and remember, that life is for living, not for later and every moment is an opportunity for you to Make Your Life.

 


Joelle


This exercise was created to support the members of the Life Makers MasterMind in blowing through their goals and living a great life in 2011.  The Life Makers Mastermind is a community of support, inspiration, education and accountability for those who choose to be the conscious creators of their lives, who want to passionately pursue their inspired goals and dreams and who wish to experience the magic of a life lived on purpose.

 

Learn more about the Life Makers Mastermind

 

 

Welcome to 2011!

 

It’s the beginning of a new year and there is no better time to powerfully and intentionally put a stake in the ground for a 2011 to remember!

 

This Wednesday join me for the Life Maker’s MasterMind 2011 kick off meeting!

 

Set The Foundation For 2011
Wednesday January 12th
12:00 -1:00 Eastern
Call in Number: 712 432 3900
Access code: 813517#

 

 

Together we will design you year with Intention and start engaging in the practical steps to make this the year that

 

“you do it”,

 

“you get there”,

 

“you accomplish it”

 

and you find the happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction you have been seeking.

 

• If you could create anything for your life, what would you create?
 

• Where will you be on the journey 12 months from now?
 

• What are the specific goals that you will accomplish within that 12 month vision?

 

• How do you want to feel right now? What is the energy, the mood and the emotion that you want to embody as you walk the path?

 

 

To participate:

 

-Save the date and time in your calendar,

 

-Write down the call-in number and access code,

 

-And come ready to create your future!

 

Set The Foundation For 2011
Wednesday January 12th
12:00 -1:00 Eastern
Call in Number: 712 432 3900
Access code: 813517#

 

Do not miss your chance to set a solid foundation for an amazing year of Life-Making.

 

Join us, it’s time to rock your 2011.


Joelle

 

Note:  Please be sure to bring a pen and paper to the call and find a quite space where you can give your full attention to the creative process.
Also, no wireless headsets please as they tend to create feedback on the line. 

Cannot wait to create with you!

I'm Pretty Sure I Didn't Start Out Wimpy…

 


Jeff and I have been married almost 5 years.  When we came together it was truly an epic love story – the stars aligned and the angels sang as I was found by my perfect match.

 

Long before the man ever entered the picture I had a crystal clear vision of what we would be together.

 

I would settle for nothing less than true partnership – one where we would plan together, budget together and learn together. Together we would design our future and together we would revel in the dance of living into it.

 

When Jeff and I began it was all that and more. We planned, we built, we dreamed in tandem.  The world was our oyster and we were certain that together we could accomplish anything.

And then as time passed, the shiny new toy called “togetherness” lost its luster.

 

More and more we retreated to our separate offices to do our planning.

 

More and more my girlfriends knew my dreams and celebrated my goals -accomplished while my husband was relegated to the sidelines.

 

More and more I lived my life, wishing for better from him and for us. Once an advocate of inspiration and partnership I found myself increasingly in the roles of nag and martyr.

 

My disappointment grew as did my frustration and resentment.  I was waiting for my husband to come play with me and I could not understand what had gone wrong.

 


Start With The Man/Woman In the Mirror

 

But I knew one thing.

 

I knew that whenever things are not working the way I want, the first place to look is never over there, but always, always, always right here with the one staring back at me in the mirror.

 

There had to be something I was contributing here, or not contributing. Something that I was bringing to the equation that wasn’t adding up.

 

I looked and I wondered and I questioned until one sunny Monday afternoon something hit me like a bolt of lightning.

 

I had seen this pattern before in a totally different setting with a different cast of characters.

 

I was suddenly drawn back to around the year 2000 BC (Before Coaching),   back to when I was a manager unable to get what I needed from my team. Back to when I resented them and was frustrated with them for not doing their jobs, not being a team, not engaging with me.

 

It didn’t seem like it at the time but, back then, the problem was in the mirror too.

 

The day I owned it, took responsibility, stood up and started leading that team – truly, courageously and lovingly leading it – everything changed.

 

And with that…. The light bulb went on.

 

I realized I was being a total wimp in my marriage.

 

 

Nothing A Spine and A Monster Cookie Can’t Fix

 

So, the problem was not my guy. The problem was that I was not owning my power.

 

I was feeling sorry for myself, lamenting the things our relationship wasn’t, wishing that they would be, trying a little… but I knew that I had better in me than that.

 

I’m the coach for heaven’s sake! 

 

I’m the creator, the dreamer, the planner, the one that makes stuff happen. Heck! That’s a huge part of why he married me!

 

At what point I succumbed to mediocrity and resignation I am not sure but I can tell you this. I know when I got over it!

 

In that moment I got clear and I got brazen.

 

I opened up my Outlook calendar and sent my husband a "Meeting Request."

 

Subject: “Tonight 7- 8 pre-Chuck Friedman family meeting with wine (on the table, not from the participants) and snacks.”  (SEND)

 
(For anyone who is not a “Chuck” fan – which is probably most of you since it was almost cancelled last season -  his name is Chuck Bartowski but you can call him Charles Carmichael, super FBI agent,  and he graces our television at 8 pm. on  Mondays in one of the cheesiest, light hearted little bits of entertainment fluff around. We are addicted.)

 

10 minutes later I received the email notification that my meeting request was accepted!! It was on!

 

I excitedly pulled together the agenda, including discussion on the mission of our family meeting and the creation of a joint code of conduct.  We had time set aside to discuss topics ranging from our family budget to division of labor and reinstitution of Sunday soup and bread night.

 

Next it was off to the store for wine and snacks.

 

When Jeff arrived home the dining room was set.  The agenda sat beside a robust display of wine, meat and cheese, Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (Jeff’s favorite) and a monster cookie that comprised of 2 chocolate chip cookies with white goo in the middle and purple and orange icing fur on top with eyes.

 

How could he do anything but smile?

 

He sat down looked at the agenda and with a sparkle in his eye said “An hour? We can get this done in less than an hour. Let me start. Division of labor… I can do a lot more there.”

 

And with that, my heart stirred a little. It was happening, I was doing it. “WE” were back!

 

As the meeting proceeded there was a growing sense of excitement, anticipation for the life we were creating together and Jeff was right. We were done in 35 minutes and on the couch with Chuck in no time.  

 

The next morning I hit my desk, emboldened by the previous night’s success.  I sent out another meeting notice. 

 

Subject: “Pre-chuck Family meeting 7-8 Monday’s with wine and snacks”

Recurring: To infinity

 

Today the “snacks” are healthier and we are skipping the wine (since it’s a school night and all). We are creating our future together and back to behaving like newly-weds.

 

Where I used to say, “I have such hope for our relationship” I now see that hope realized everyday and particularly between 7 and 8 Mondays before we hang out with Chuck. And it all happened in an instant, in the moment when I reclaimed my power and took responsibility for my relationship and my life.

 

The moral of the story….

 

Just in case you were wondering, “bribe them with food” is not the moral of the story. Don’t get me wrong, it works, but that is not the point.

 

The point is that, when I was out of my power, I was whining, nagging, sometimes demanding to get my needs met. It was unattractive, threatening and definitely no fun.

 

When I reclaimed responsibility for my own life, my relationship and my ability to make a difference in my marriage, the veil of frustration was lifted. I became light, energized, confident and playful and suddenly (gasp!) my husband wanted to play!

 

The Invitation:

 

As you look around your own life, notice where you are striving, pushing, or lashing out in an attempt to get what you want.  Notice where you are disappointed or where you are waiting for someone else to make things better for you.

 

Perhaps you too want more for your marriage, or maybe you have a team to lead.  It may be a friend who is not meeting your expectations or even your boss.

 

Instead of letting frustration and resignation rule the day, instead of complaining or laying blame, take a look in the mirror and ask the person staring back the following:

 

  • What am I bringing to the table?
  • How am I contributing to this situation?
  • In what ways am I giving away my power?
  • If I truly have the power to make a difference, what action can I take?
  • If I were 100% committed to this thing I want and willing to take responsibility for what is not working, what action could I take to make it happen?
  • If I were to lighten up, what might I try differently?

 

Enjoy your chat with the person in the mirror and more power to both of you.

 

With love,

 

Joelle

Hi guys,

 

In today’s Make Your Life interview you will meet Chelsea Markel – An 18-year old thriving entrepreneur and a Teen Success Life Coach, specializing in Self-Confidence Reinvention and Effective Communication. 

 

In this interview you will get a sense of this remarkable young woman who overcame intense bullying, social exclusion and depression at a young age and went on to reclaim her power and self-confidence.  She even wrote a book about it!  She is wise beyond her years, she is one powerful Life-Maker and if you have a teenager you will want to make sure they are with you. 

 

Listening to Chelsea is sure to brighten your day and your future. Enjoy!

 

Joelle

 

 

 

Make Your Life Interview with Chelsea Markel Teen Success Coach

  

Chelsea market picture jpeg A little about Teen Success Coach Chelsea Markel …

 
At the age of 10 Chelsea experienced intense bullying and had many social problems leading to anxiety and sadness. She struggled with being the "outsider" and not having many friends during Elementary and Middle School — which left her excluded and depressed.

Inspired to make a change, she began to read personal growth and development books and listened to tapes of people like Anthony Robbins and T. Harv Eker and attended seminars which changed her outlook on life completely.

Despite these shifts she was still feeling unfulfilled because she wasn't fully using and sharing her gifts. So, what would any teenager do? She began to write a book about transforming your self-confidence and taking control of your life.

Chelsea’s book has led her to becoming a teen success life coach – with her goal being to inspire and empower teenagers to live the lifestyle they desire and show them exactly how to achieve personal greatness through her four step success process, introducing them to the brilliance that lives within them.

Chelsea is a shining example of what it looks like when a person takes responsibility and control of their lives and she will tell you herself that she is reaping the rewards in the countless blessing she has manifested.

 

 

Listen Now! Coach Joelle Interviews Chelsea Markel 

 

  

Download instructions: To listen, right click on the link above and select "Save Target As." Pick a folder to save your audio into.  Once the audio is saved to your hard drive you can upload it to your iPod or listen to it on your computer at your leisure. Note: Due to the file size, downloading may take a few moments. Deep breath… exhale… smile… ok, it will be there any moment now  ;-)

  

 

 

 

 

The Make Your Life Interview Series brings you visionaries, masters and everyday people who have discovered the magic available when you live on-purpose.  In each interview you will hear inspiring stories and gain practical insights to support you in reaching beyond your circumstances, accessing your personal power and creating a life in alignment with your values, dreams and aspirations.

 


 

Beware the Dream Stomper

Author: coach joelle
November 11, 2010

Hi guys!

 

 

I was 11 years old.  It was a typical day in the life of a 6th grader as I met my friend Damian for the 1.5 mile walk to Westwood School. In between the occasional  punch in the arm, sarcastic comments and pre-teen eye rolls we shared our stories and our hopes and plans for the future.

 

On this particular morning, along with telling Damian of my visions of becoming a prima ballerina (like the girls I met at the Royal Winnipeg Ballet who only ate bran muffins), I also mentioned casually that I might want to be a model when I grew up.

 

Damian then proceeded to tell me, in no uncertain terms, that my nose was clearly too big to be a model.

 

And that was it.  A one-minute conversation with a 11-year-old boy was enough to erase that possibility from my future. My dream of modeling died that day.  I didn’t mourn it or cry. It died quietly, the only remnants being a lingering distaste for my side profile as it always seemed to pronounce the vastness of my clearly too-big schnoz.

 

Do I blame Damian that I am not following in the footsteps of the Naomi Campbells and Cindy Crawfords of the world? No.  I’m 5’5’’ (ish) and anything over a 1.5 inch heel has me wiping out in elevators, never mind on a fashion show runway. 

 

But this is not the point!  The point is I was 11 years old, bursting full off possibility with the world at my feet and already I was closing doors on myself.  It saddens me that I let that dream die so easily.  That one uninformed comment not only killed off a future possibility but gave me a major nose complex that lasted into my late 20’s!

Plain and simple, MY DREAM GOT STOMPED ON and I am writing this article so it doesn’t happen to you.

 

 

Don’t Let It Happen To You!

 

 

Dreams come in many forms.  The dream of owning your own business, the dream of making VP, the dream of owning a home or graduating college or being a millionaire, finding love or winning an Academy Award.

 

Whether it is a deep longing or a fleeting fancy, the dreams you have are yours and I encourage you to resist the well-meaning advice of those who want to stomp on them!

 

“Don’t reach too high.” Your coworker warns.

“Why would you want to do that?” Your sister asks you with distain.

“Things like that happen to other people, not to people like us.” Dad says to make sure you don’t get too big for your britches.

 

You’re not smart enough…..

 

You’re not pretty enough….

 

You’re too old….

 

You’re too young…

 

It’s never been done before….

 

What makes you think you are so special?!…

 

To all those who wish to stomp on your dreams due to their own lack of self-confidence, their desire to hold you down, their attempts to keep you safe or their simple need to have an opinion…

 

I SAY PHOOEY!!!

 

PHOOEY! PHOOEY! PHOOEY!!!

 

Nobody gets to tell you not to follow your dream.  And if you have people around you that have a tendency to do that, please ask them to start supporting you, to keep their thoughts to themselves or to kindly move on.

 

You are wise, intuitive and resourceful and those dreams that keep tugging at you tug at you for a reason. They want to be born in your life and where there is that kind of will, there is always a way.

 

 


Passing Fancy or Destiny

 

 

Now, some dreams truly are a passing fancy. They have no teeth and their swift death would hardly be a blip on your radar but let it be you who chooses to put them out to pasture.  Let it be by your hand that they lay down for their last time.

 

Other dreams endure, even when they have been beaten down, even when they seemed impossible or you were told they were unrealistic, they keep popping their head up saying “Remember me? I’m still here waiting for you.”

 

Think about it…. do you have one of those?  Has it been poking at you for months? Years? Decades?  Is it time to reopen that dream file that was stomped closed in days gone by?

 

Believe it or not, coaching was one of those dreams for me. 

 

When I was 21, I wanted to be a coach but I didn’t know it yet, not fully.  No one stomped on that dream per se, it was just that it hardly existed back then. No one had a name for it.  I had a psychology degree and no desire to do the heart-wrenching work of a therapist.    I wanted to work with people who were happy, healthy, successful and wanted more from life.  But I didn’t know what it was called or how to make a living at it so I went into the business world.

 

Fortunately, this was one of those dreams that would not die and when I was ready to reconnect to the longings of my heart some years later, it was still there.  By 2001 I found out my dream had a name -professional coaching – along with accredited training and its own professional association. And the rest, as they say, is history.

 

Funny thing – turns out the modeling bug endured as well because, when a friend of mine in advertising asked me to sit in on a photo shoot, I was all over it!! joelle happy as a clam

 

The campaign consisted of a series of head shots depicting “the science of happy”.  They chose my picture to represent “Happy as a clam” (and not only that, my fabulous schnoz was featured on one of several 20-foot-tall banners the company hung from the rafters at a convention they held.

 

Take that, Damian! ;-)

 

 


 

 

The Invitation:

 

1)  Guard your hopes for the future from the DREAM STOMPERS of the world.  Whether they be friends, family, bosses or well-meaning strangers, your dreams are yours and you have them for a reason.  While I do not personally believe that anyone can do anything, I do believe that you can do those things that call to you or they would never have called. Do not allow others to remove them from your future – save that choice for you alone.

 

2) Check in with yourself and see if there are any previously stomped-on dreams that need resuscitating.  Don’t worry about not having all the answers. When we connect to the power of our dreams amazing things become possible.  Empires have been built in under 5 years, people have gone back to school at 70 and 80 years old, people have discovered the airplane and walked on the moon and, yes, some people with bulbous noses and average height and ½ an index finger have been paid as models. He He!

 

Your dreams are a gift of freedom and happiness to yourself and they are your precious and unique contribution to the world. 

 

Live them.

 

Gotta go.  My agent just called. :-)

 

With love,

 

Coach Joelle
 

Did you endure unreasonable dream stomping?  Do you have a dream that needs to be resuscitated?  Have you noticed how certain dreams have tended to endure even when you have tried to put them away?  We would love to hear about them!  Share in the comments below.

Hi Guys!

 

Back from a relaxing week on a beautiful ship in the sparkling blue Caribbean I’m overwhelmed with a deep appreciation. It is a wonderful thing when vacations are the icing on top of a fulfilling life as opposed to some desperate act of resuscitation.  Love it.

 

Grateful to be back on the desk I am excited to share an interview with you from the Make Your Life Interview Series.

 

Allow me to introduce Kyle MacDonald, of One Red Paper Clip fame.

 

Kyle is pretty amazing.  His energy, enthusiasm and pure audacity are truly inspiring for anyone who is out to make their life. 

 

If the name doesn’t ring a bell then perhaps this will.  

 

Kyle is the creative Canadian who traded a red novelty paperclip for …

 

….. wait for it…     ….wait for it…

 

A HOUSE!

 

It is one awesome story and he has authored a book entitled One Red Paperclip detailing his experience.   Kyle is a true adventurer and a powerful Life Maker and I am excited to share him with you in this inspiring interview!

 

Hold onto your hats! If he can cause a house from a paperclip who knows what his story will spark in your life.

 

 

Joelle

 

Make Your Life Interview with Kyle MacDonald of One Red Paperclip

 

 

 

 A little about Kyle …

 

Kyle MacDonald, author of One Red Paperclip has planted more than one hundred thousand trees, delivered more than one thousand pizzas, but eaten only one scorpion. He has also traded one red paperclip for a house only once.

Hear his amazing story as he interviews with Coach Joelle!

 

 ( NOTE: Due to technical difficulties the sound quality on my voice is pretty bad.  Kyle sounds clear so bear with me and you will get to hear all the good stuff.)

 

 Listen Now!    Coach Joelle Interviews Kyle MacDonald

  

 

 

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The Make Your Life Interview Series brings you visionaries, masters and everyday people who have discovered the magic available when you live on-purpose.  In each interview you will hear inspiring stories and gain practical insights to support you in reaching beyond your circumstances, accessing your personal power and creating a life in alignment with your values, dreams and aspirations.


 

Hi Guys!

 

A few months back I was heading up to Sedona for a relaxing girls weekend with one of my best friends and fellow entrepreneurs. 

 

As we drove out of Phoenix, the saguaros first gave way to green mesas and then towering red rocks and, as it often does, the conversation turned to our businesses. 

 

We puzzled, pondered, cracked ourselves up and shook our heads as we discussed our daily challenges, purging them before the special energy of the vortexes and the soon to be consumed bottle of Red Zin took our minds to total chill mode.

 

As we neared the end of our debrief, I was hit by a sudden burst of inspiration.  I turned to my friend and with a wry tone and a sparkle in my eye said…

 

“Oh and don’t even get me started about the bludgeoning stab of someone unsubscribing from my newsletter!”

 

She turned to me incredulously.

 

“I was just about to say that!!” she exclaimed. “That is so painful! Why is that?”

 

How fascinating that something so small, so innocent as an “unsubscribe request”  could take two strong, confident, seasoned business people and bring them to their knees. 

 

I know we are not alone.

 

You may not have a newsletter but perhaps you make your living selling, or maybe you are seeking approval for an important project at work or perhaps you are just looking for a date!

 

And if that weren’t enough, with all the wonders of technology, the internet, and social media we have the potential to be rejected 24/7 by people half way around the world that we haven’t even met!

 

(Continued From Newsletter)

 

Pretty much anyone with a computer and an internet connection has suffered through the confusion of an unanswered email. 

 

“Whoa! Don’t they like me any more? I thought we had something but maybe I was wrong”

(I had an entire long distance romance implode because of this very thing.)

 

For the Twitter "tweeps" you may find yourself dealing with the occasional “unfollow”.

 

And for all you Facebook friends we have the unanswered or denied friend request. Or the heart-stopping shock of an “unfriending”. NOOOOOOOO!!!!

 

The faces of “rejection” are many and varied and none of us are immune to its sting.

 

While it may be tempting to hide out and avoid all human contact to avoid the immanent rejection, this will likely leave you jobless, sale-less, loveless, friendless, with limited possibilities and an ever shrinking world. 

 

The alternative of course is to toughen that skin, flex those resilience muscles and get a new take on rejection.

 

So let’s get to it!

 

 

1) “No” does not mean “you suck!”  – Stop reading between the lines

 

One of the reasons we are so rejection averse is because we often take someone’s “no thank you” and add elaborate embellishment.

 

For instance: if we go back to my newsletter story, I was taking the words, “Unsubscribe request” and somewhere between the words on the screen and my brain I created an fascinating interpretation that went something like this…

 

 

 

 

The “Rejection”

What I Added 

“Unsubscribe” =

“I don’t like you! You provide nothing of value.  I think you are a terrible coach and you just plain annoy me!”

 

 

Isn’t that rich?!

 

Now you try it.

 

When someone says “no” to your product or service do you take that as a rejection of you?

 

When your boss declines your idea do you give up, certain that no idea will ever be accepted by this killjoy?

 

When the guy (or gal) says “It’s not working for me.” Do you extrapolate that out 50 years to you sitting on the front porch in a rocking chair sad and alone?

 

Well…Stop it!

 

(Speaking of which – if you want to save a bunch on coaching check out Bob Newhart’s hilarious take on how to get over our stuff and get on with it.)

 

 

 

 

 

 Stop trying to read between the lines my friend.  I am willing to bet that no one has ever come right out and said…. 

 

“Hey, I just want you to know I REJECT YOU!!!!”

 

Let’s face it, it doesn’t happen so let’s leave story time for late night reading and when it comes to human interaction just let a “no” be a “no”.

 

 

2) It’s Not About You

 

It’s not about you.  Really!

 

The “No, I don’t want any”, the unanswered email,  the “unsubscribe” or the “unfollow’ is much more likely about that other person’s time,  need for organization,  personal preferences or cluttered inbox than about anything that has to do with you.   

 

We are all just trying to get our jobs done and make our lives work and that means saying "no" to some things and "yes" to others – ending one relationship so another more suitable one can be found,  vetoing one idea so that a more effective solution is coaxed into discovery.

 

It’s not personal.

 

Let me illustrate with a little scenario that I like to share with sales people and daters alike. 

 

 

The Orange Shirt VS The Blue Shirt

 

Let’s imagine that you sell t-shirts. 

 

You have blue shirts and orange shirts. 

 

Some people are going to prefer blue shirts and some will prefer orange, that’s just how it is. 

 

If someone prefers a blue shirt, should the orange shirt feel rejected?

 

Should the orange shirt try to convince the blue shirt people that they really need an orange shirt but they just don’t know it? 

 

Should the orange shirt berate itself for not being good enough or for not being the right color to be chosen?

 

Of course not.  Blue shirt people are going to like and purchase blue shirts and the orange shirt shouldn’t bat a sleeve at that because there are orange shirt people out there who are seeking and prefer orange shirts.

 

In the end it all works out. Everyone receives the shirt that lines up with their unique preferences and the orange and blue shirts find loving homes with their rightful owners.

 

Decode the shirt thing and the point is, just because someone doesn’t want to buy your sprinkler system doesn’t mean they don’t like you.  It could mean they don’t have a lawn. 

 


3) Rejection Is Redirection

 

Perhaps the most hopeful and enlightening piece of advice I can give on the subject was shared by a friend who attended an Anne Albers seminar.

 

Her advice on rejection?

 

“Rejection is Redirection.”

 

Simple, succinct and brilliant!

 

From this perspective, rejection is a gift, taking unsuitable clients, suitors, and ideas out of your life so that you can focus on those who are a match and the concepts that will go the distance.

 

Which brings us back to the “unsubscribe”.

 

I have found peace with it.  I have total faith that the people who are supposed to be on the path with me will be, that those I am meant to serve, our paths will cross and that those who are not a fit or who are ready to move on, they can do so freely, leaving me with a community who is ready for and interested in my message at any given moment in time.

 

Feels good. Glad you are here. (And if this gives you the final permission to unsubscribe without worrying about hurting my feelings, have at it ;-) )

 

 
The Invitation:

 

Notice where you are bending yourself in fear of rejection…

 

Notice where you are creating interpretations that make a “no” more than it really is.

 

Notice when you are taking someone else’s preferences and making them a statement about you and what is wrong with you.  Try creating a new interpretation for their choice that could foreseeably be the very best thing for all parties.

 

And finally, make friends with your “nos”. 

 

If someone removes themselves from your friend list,

 

doesn’t want to date you,

 

declines your proposal

 

or isn’t interested in what you are selling,

 

consider it a gift.  A cosmic redirection to better things for all.

 

May all your rejections be gentle and may you always have the courage to step out into the world to weather another hard won “no”.

 

Joelle

 

 

Hi Guys!

 

Nothing like a long weekend to give your life a major overhaul.  Oh I know, some people use these lazy last days of summer for BBQs or beach time but I gotta tell you, when I had 3 whole days of nothing, my immediate thought was “CREATE ORDER” … “BUILD STRUCTURE”!  And that is exactly what I did and it rocked!! 

 

I cleaned up the office, got stuff ready to put on Ebay, and coordinated special projects like  – which plays I was going to audition for this fall and  – recording my results from the latest trip to my physician and -  making a list of the supplements I’m taking and what each one serves. 

 

By Monday I was clean, clear, orderly, processed and ready to just plain chill.

 

Through my organizing I took my life to a whole new level of intention and order. This intention and order gives me time, space, grounding and mental capacity to engage in the creativity and connection that fuels my life.

 

Today we will be exploring how you can bring the power of systems to your life.

 

Enjoy!

 


 Joelle

 


A Chart, a List, a Check in the Box… The Power of Systems to Simplify and Accelerate

 

So often I have people tell me that they just can’t get it together

 


They are dropping commitments all over the place and not because they don’t want to or don’t care but often because they just can't keep track of them all.  Sometimes they jump out of the gate in earnest and with great intention but then life overshadows their burst of inspiration and in time, any thoughts of a balanced checkbook or trips to the gym fall by the wayside.

 

What usually happens next is a rousing bout of self-flagellation and talk of their “lack of will-power” or the perils of an aging mind.

 


More often than not, the problem is not that your brain is failing or that your will is weak, the challenge is that you think that will and memory alone are enough to get the job done. In most cases they are not.

 


What you need my friend, is a system.

 


Systems for Scheduling:

 


“I forgot.”

 


I hear that one a lot. 

 


I forgot to take time for myself.

 

I forgot to work out.

 

I forgot to put time into my business.

 

I forgot that I said I would think about what I want to do next with my life.

 


Oh sure, we could get all deep and call it “resistance” or “avoidance” or what have you, but over time I have come to learn that often these are simply the symptoms of a life waiting for a system.

 


One of the systems I have used religiously for over 15 years is a calendar. 

 


My calendar is open all day and I live by it. And it’s not just for appointments with others.

 


On the pages of my calendar I record every commitment I have. Anything that is important enough that it needs to get done is important enough to make it onto my calendar.

 


If I have a speaking engagement, I don’t just put down the time that I will be at the engagement;

 


• I write in travel time to make sure I have time to get there. 


• I then work backwards from the day of the main event to write in the hours of preparation required to pull it off seamlessly, often going back months to take me from conception to delivery.

 
• I’ll even block off the night before from social activities just in case the all-nighter has to happen anyway.


I have included a recent week’s activities to give you a flavor of what this can look like.

 


Outlook is my weapon of choice. The ability to set up recurring appointments is a timesaver and the color coding helps me to assess my day and week at a glance.

 


Blue are coaching calls


Purple is creativity


Red is Important/unmovable


Green is personal (yep – I keep the personal stuff here too)

 


 


If you find yourself not making time to meditate, work out, sell, write, plan or feed the cats, then I invite you to consider putting it on your calendar.

 


System Tip: If it needs to get done, it needs to get on your calendar. 

 

 

 

Systems For Mindfulness:

 


An entrepreneur client of mine wanted to be more productive at work and often found himself dawdling, doing personal stuff and avoiding what he knew he needed to do.

 


Over several coaching sessions we identified numerous key thoughts and actions that would support him in getting and staying on the right track. 

 


These included;

 


• getting organized in the morning


• cleaning his desk at the end of each day


• doing the tough stuff first (eating the frog a la Brian Tracy)


• and grouping tasks

 


He also identified that he needed to stay present – regularly coming back to the moment and checking to see if he is on task and attending to what’s important.


To keep track of these key elements to a quality day, he made a worksheet that he keeps on his desk, checking off actions and making notes on his delivery to intention throughout the day.

 

 


As a result of the daily attention to these elements, not only in this client getting more done, staying on task and developing a greater sense of pride and satisfaction in his work but he is also developing supportive and productive work habits that will be with him long after the form has served its purpose.

 

 

System Tip: Don’t leave it all up to your mind to be mindful.

 

 

 

Systems for reaching the goal:

 


We have all seen those big thermometers that are used to chart the funds raised, sales made or pairs of shoes collected.

 


Believe me, they are more than a pretty graphic.

 


The visible, measurable and track-able results of any sustained effort towards a meaningful goal is key to getting that goal accomplished.

 


It is one thing to say, “I need to make an extra $2000 to erase my credit card debt.”  and it is an entirely different thing to actually make a workable plan and track your delivery on that plan.

 


To illustrate, let me tell you about  Anne.  Anne had just moved her business to a new market and needed to reestablish a client base in her new community.

 


She had been doing some marketing but the results were unremarkable.

 


You see, Anne had gotten herself into a self-defeating cycle of trying a little and then talking herself out of it. 

 

She wondered if her effort would really pay off.

 

She wondered if she was capable.

 

She even wondered if she wanted to run the business at all or get a job. 

 

All interesting things to wonder, none of which got her into action. 

 


In order to have a breakthrough in her ability to cause in her own business Anne needed to commit in a new, meaningful and motivating way, so she decided to create a game of building her business.

 


The game was this;

 


• 20 hours a week of marketing


• Work the plan full-out until the end of September (period – no discussion on this one)


• Measure the plan daily and record progress


• Record and celebrate successes along the way

 


She created the 90-Hour Marketing Challenge (approximately 20 hours a week for 5 weeks) with a nifty little spreadsheet to match and she has been reporting every couple of days on her progress.

 


 

With this very clear plan and visual representation of how she is measuring up to her commitment, Anne is enjoying her game, building momentum and growing her capacity and her faith in her ability to produce financial results in her business and her life.


System Tip: What gets measured gets done.

 

 

 

 Systems for Accountability:

 


The entire coaching relationship is a system in itself.

 


There is something pretty powerful in knowing that you will need to account for your thoughts, words and deeds at the end of each week.  Often this structure is enough to create breakthroughs that have been previously elusive and that’s just the structure – never mind the coaching itself.

 


In addition to the accountability coaching provides, the dedicated coaching time (scheduled in your trusty calendar) is a system as well. 

 


Sort of a weekly reboot on life where you;

 


• stop,


• take stock,


•  gain clarity,


• dream up futures


• and commit to next steps.  

 


This process alone will change your life for the simple reason that it requires you to pay attention and live on purpose.

 


System Tip:  Use coaches, trainers and masterminds for structure and accountability.

 

 


 The Invitation:

 


Pick one area of your life where you would like to move forward. 

 


• Understanding your finances


• Making and keeping a budget


• Getting out of debt


• Eating healthy


• Getting to the gym


• Losing weight


• Excelling at work


• Discovering your passion


• Getting promoted


• Appreciating your partner


• Finding a partner


• Loving yourself

 


Once you have something worth your time and attention, choose one system to support your progress. 

 


  • Put daily time on your calendar to journal.

 


  • Schedule an hour a week just for you to do whatever makes your little heart happy.

 


  • Create an eating plan and check off the boxes as you eat your 5th serving of veggies.

 


  • Make a wall thermometer to measure your progress towards saving 6 months of living expenses.

 


  • Get yourself a coach or a personal trainer or jump into a program that will walk you through to your goal step by step!

 


Whatever the goal, whatever you want to create for your life, there is a system that will support it, make the ride easier and bring you closer to success.

 


Get to it!

 

 

Joelle

 

 


It has been 3 weeks since I completed my integrity experiment and having found a quiet moment I thought I would take this opportunity to close the loop on my journey.

 

 

It has been a great ride, much was learned and even more was created.

 

 

Hmmm. Let’s see….

 

  

 

1) Happy animals: 

 

 

One area of major triumph was my integrity around only eating animals that came from free roaming farms and to not contribute to the factory farming industry.  I have been acting on this for some time now but rarely with such consistency and vigilance. 

 

 

 

With free range eggs as a staple and the occasional serving of grass fed beef I have found my way to a much more vegetable centered existence and there is no experience of hardship.  When I go to a restaurant I look for the black bean soup and applaud the restaurant if they have gone to the care of having free range chicken on the menu. 

 

By taking this on in my integrity experiment it has truly helped me turn the corner to a primarily vegetarian diet as a joyful choice without the experience of hardship or sacrifice.

 

 

2) 97.5 Degrees:

 

 

raising my body temperature was another triumph.  I had been taking my temperature in an attempt to track body temperature for fertility and all that good stuff.  My temperature hanging out in the 96’s along with an unusually low metabolism drew me to conclude that thyroid may be an issue.   I dug in, asked more questions, read more and explored and with the help of my faithful chiropractor and B12 supplements my body is living in the 97’s with regularity. YAY!

 

 

The intention and action it took to take charge of this issue and make this change came directly from my experiment and I am grateful to have this small piece of my physical puzzle in place.

 

 

3) Guess Who’s Allergic To Gluten and Casin?

 

 

Out of my increased attention to health and my quest for unanswered physical questions, my doctor encouraged me to get blood tests to determine a possible gluten or casein allergy (wheat or milk) and low and behold I am positive for both of them.  I am so excited to learn this!  While milk had been pretty much dropped because of the afore mentioned ethical issues, Wasa crackers and Ezekiel sprouted grain bread have been a staple for some time. 

 

 

As I think back I can remember countless people asking if I have a cold to which I reply “no” and shrug it off as a bad phone connection. Could it be that my body has been fighting off the affects of my food all this time? Who knows, but as I turn in my whole wheat and oatmeal for Quinoa and buckwheat I am truly excited for this step towards greater health, one that I actually saw as an ultimate goal but had not yet had the motivation to act on.  Funny how life works that way.

 

 

 

4) Pondering Wine and Other “Goodies”: 

 

 

You may recall that part of this process was to experiment around the place of alcohol and sugar in my life and the findings are conclusive.

 

 

They don’t fit.  Not forever, but certainly not for now.  

 

 

Right after my crash and burn post I made a new arrangement with myself, no alcohol and no sweets until I hit 139 lbs. Why this number you ask? Well, it’s the number I have in my head and it’s not far away and historically I have demonstrated that when I play with sweets and wine it just gets in the way of this health goal so I just don’t want it in my life right now. Again, I’m not saying never, but none of it has a place as a daily installment for me.

 

 

The cool thing is that again, I feel no hardship.  Instead of wine I drink 100% cranberry juice with a little stevia. It looks like the real thing and it has a depth that is actually quite satisfying. As for the sweets, I have found that 1 tbsp of coconut, 1 tsp of raw organic cocoa powder and 1 packet of stevia with a little cinnamon is totally satisfying and I rarely ever have the need to do more than one serving. It gives me the chocolaty goodness without any of the drama.

 

 

5) Happy news on the decaf front:

 

 

Ok, one more thing about health. Since I drew a line around decaf coffee (the decaffeination process can be toxic and I cannot do strong caffeine because it makes me freaky) I have revealed some helpful information in my quest for a happy cup of coffee. 

 

 

First off, the good people at www.swisswater.com responded to one of my blog posts and shared that their process which uses water for the decaffeination process instead of solvents.  After looking into it I realized that many of my favorite coffee providers were already ahead of the curve on this one, using swiss water processed coffee in their establishments allowing me to have my “coffee without compromise.” 

 

 

Before I had discovered this decaf solution I had also made a trip to whole foods for coffee alternatives and I am quite happy to report that my new favorite drink is French roast Teeccino with unsweetened almond milk.  No caffeine, alkalizing (instead of acidic – coffee is acidic) cozy comfort in cup.

 

 

6) Meditation Shmeditation:  

 

 

Spiritually, a lot has happened due to my experiment.  I set out to meditate daily which I did for the experiment but it has not stuck afterward which is interesting.  I think I would be well served by a spiritual practice guided by someone else to get this to make this process more purposeful and meaningful.

 

 

7) One Inspired Community Coming up!:

 

 

In week 3 of my experiment I had a sudden burst of inspiration that has completely enriched my life and in a very real way created structure for me to continue to live very intentionally beyond the experiment. 

 

 

Last year a coach friend of mine suggested I do Julia Cameron’s the Artist’s Way  based on some of the things I shared with her about where my head was and what I was looking for.  I wanted to explore this but when I was cast in Beachwood Community Theaters production of the princess Snow White earlier this year I realized that rehearsal would conflict with any regularly occurring evening commitment so I put off starting the group. 

 

 

Well the idea came back to me during my experiment and it caused me to act rapidly.  I sent out an email to 10 gentle souls who I thought would like share the 12 week journey with me.  I had the email crafted and sent within the day.  I had 8 yes’s and we began the following Wednesday.

 

 

Little did I know that with this email I had managed to pull together the soulful community I had been longing for since I moved to Cleveland. In this group I am “student” not “teacher” and it is an opportunity to create, to explore, to be messy and to share love.

 

 

Who knows where we will take it after the 12 weeks of the program are complete, it doesn’t matter, all I know is that a deep need has just been filled and it happened in an instant and I am overwhelmed with gratitude.

 

 

8) Gentle Hands: 

 

 

Early on in my experiment I was called to get into action to find holistic/energetic nourishment, education and reprieve.  I started on a quest to find a spiritual mentor or a home for the next phase of my development.

 

 

I explored energy practitioners, and naturopathic resources and while I am still looking for a guide to support the elevation of my understanding of the world, I find it intriguing that a major piece of my puzzle was here all along.  

 

 

I am happy to announce that I have found a gentle place for the replenishment of my soul in the loving hands of Debbie Craven Massage Therapist, Reiki Master, Reflexologist and wise woman extraordinaire.  The first time I met Debbie she gave Jeff and I reflexology treatments at a wellness fair.  I loved her energy and have returned to her little peaceful studio for birthdays and special occasions. 

 

 

The 30 minute drive to her studio through Ohio’s beautiful countryside was a true delight for my senses and the moment I was on her table every care in the world drifted out of my head, I found blissful Zenned-out happiness, she has a real talent.

 

 

While she did her work we discussed resources, methodology and connections for me to continue my quest for spiritual deepening and physical healing.

 

 

This wonderful experience lead me to the obvious question.  “Why on earth would I save such a gift just for birthdays and special occasions?”  Debbie and I now have a standing 90 minute monthly appointment. And I look forward to our insightful conversations, and her gentle care of my body and soul.

 

 

9) I could go on but….:

 

 

I am realizing I could write much more than I am sure anyone wants to read on all of this so I am going to wrap it up by saying that my life is rising. I can feel it.  I feel light, creative, peaceful, healthy, excited, alert and alive.

 

 

I smile as I realize that my integrity experiment has really just been an exercise in Life-Making. Sometimes I do not put enough value on the work I do in the world – I don’t take myself seriously.  The truth is that being a conscious creator in life is the key to a joyful today and a beautiful tomorrow and through my experiment I essentially put every lesson in the Make Your Life Program into high gear in my life with awesome results.

 

I think I will ride this wave for awhile. My head open to possibility, my heart open to god, dancing with the magic of life.

 

 

Thank you for sharing this journey with me.

 

 

With love,

 

 

Joelle

 

 

If it is your time to reclaim the joy in your life and start taking yourself and your dreams seriously, join me for the Make Your Life Program October 13-December 8, 2010.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Has Your Future Expired?

Author: coach joelle
August 25, 2010

Some people come to me because they have a goal they want to achieve; others come in search of a deeper knowing of themselves, to shift old ingrained patterns and habits; still others come to recapture their zest for life, seeking to reconnect to joy and adventure.  And every once in while, I meet someone who is lost, floating rudderless and without mooring because they have fallen victim to their own success.

 

Have you noticed how often it is at the very pinnacle of professional achievement that we hear the Broadway actress or the successful lawyer or the best-selling author questioning “Is this all there is?”

 

Take my client Rebecca for example.  A respected doctor, proud parent and loving wife, she had been following the path to achievement for as long as she could remember.

 

Pre-med, medical school, building her practice, becoming an expert in her field, each step followed the one before as she reached for professional excellence.

 

Voted one of the top docs in her major metropolitan area and with the financial means to do whatever she wanted in life, one would expect Rebecca to be flying high.

 

Like so many, having reached the top of a mountain which she had been climbing for decades, Rebecca found herself with nowhere else to climb. Without that next challenge, her sense of purpose dwindled, without direction or motivation she found herself losing interest in her life.

 

Dissatisfied with the idea of spending the next 50 years hanging out on scenic vistas, she sought support to begin to unlock the dreams still waiting to be born. It was time for her to create a new inspired future to live into.

 

 

A Life Without An Inspired Future Is Like The Coyote Without The Roadrunner!

 

We all remember the old Looney Tunes Cartoons where Wile E. Coyote spends episode after episode in the tireless pursuit of the ever-elusive Roadrunner.

 

Imagine for a moment what Wile E’s life would become if he ever managed to catch and eat his infamous foe?

 

It would be tragic! Not just for the Roadrunner (obviously) but for Wile E. too!

 

No more concocting ingenious schemes, no more plummeting off cliffs, no more crates arriving from ACME! (As a point of interest, acme means the highest point, as of achievement or development.)

 

Wile E.'s future, the one where he catches and eats his tantalizing Roadrunner, would be expired. 

 

Left without a goal, a purpose, a raison d’etre, nothing left to compel or propel him, Wile E. would be set adrift.  Life as he knows it would cease to exist!

 

 

Inspired Future:  When we are heading towards something worthy and meaningful, weather it is building a career, exploring vegetarianism, learning to ski or seeking God, the draw of a future that inspires us, one born out of our own longing for life, pulls us into new adventures, provides opportunities for learning and gives purpose to our days.

 

Expired Future:  When we reach our goal, that thing we have been seeking, the future that we were pursuing has effectively expired.  It is behind us, a thing of the past, and without something new to pull us forward life can enter into a disconcerting and life-sucking limbo. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coach Help Me! I think My future Just Expired!

 

If you can relate with either of these stories, you may just have an Expired Future on your hands.

 

Let’s take a look:

 

Figure A) and B) below demonstrate the energizing effect of an Inspired Future; one which authentically engages you and pulls you to its completion.

 

Figure C) shows the drain that often follows the thrill of the finish-line, when you move past the vision you had and into the abyss. The future you once held so tightly no longer has value or provides meaning. It has effectively expired.

 

Figure D) holds the remedy.  By selecting a new, heartfelt and worthy point on the horizon you put the wind back in your sales with a new Inspired Future.

 

Does this mean that we must forever be in the dogged pursuit of lofty goals, fame, money, success – always accomplishing without a moment to breathe or rest in order to live a good life?

 

No, of course not.  But it does mean that your life needs purpose.

 

Whether it is exploring the practice of being in the moment, learning to paint or seeking to be the best spouse or parent you can be, no goal is too great or too small to be inspired. It must simply come from the authentic longings of your heart.

 

The invitation:

 

The next time you happen to be rounding out a major accomplishment:

 

1) Be sure to celebrate, BIG TIME!

 

2) When the excitement wears off and you find yourself wondering “what’s next?”, remember that it is natural to feel a little disconnected, uninspired or let down after the future you once courageously pursued is old news.  Do not fear.  This feeling need only be temporary. 

 

3) Reconnect and reengage in your life – look, listen, explore.  There is always a new Inspired Future waiting to bring energy, joy and meaning to your days.

 

It may take some soul searching but trust me.  With as many worthy journeys as there are drops of water in the ocean, it is only a matter of time and intention before life sweeps you up in a new adventure.

 

With Love,

 

Joelle

 

P.S. If you are ready to discover a new inspired future for your life I know just the place to build a brilliant tomorrow. Join me for the Make Your Life Program Starting October 13th – December 8th, 2010. Read More

 

Good Morning!

 

You know when you get those chain emails that say “send this to 200 people or all your traffic lights will be red” or some other such nonsense? Well, I rarely forward them and I usually skip the read all together, but this week an angel in my life sent me an email that was poignant and share-worthy (thanks mom).  It set a string of ripples in motion in the lives of the people I love and the lives that their lives touch and I thought I would keep it rippling.

 

For anyone who is going through what may seem like unusually hard times, the story of the two travelling angels reminds us that life is not always as it seems.
 

 

 

 

Two Travelling Angels

 

Two travelling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family.

 

The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's guest room.

 

Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement.

 

As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a hole in the wall and repaired it.

 

When the younger angel asked why, the older angel replied,

 

"Things aren't always what they seem.."

 

The next night the pair came to rest at the house of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his wife.

 

After sharing what little food they had the couple let the angels sleep in their bed where they could have a good night's rest.

 

When the sun came up the next morning the angels found the farmer and his wife in tears.

 

Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole income, lay dead in the field.

 

The younger angel was infuriated and asked the older angel how could you have let this happen?

 

The first man had everything, yet you helped him, he accused..

 

The second family had little but was willing to share everything, and you let the cow die.

 

"Things aren't always what they seem," the older angel replied.

 

"When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the wall.

 

Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the  wall so he wouldn't find it."

 

"Then last night as we slept in the farmers bed,  the angel of death came for his wife. I gave him the cow instead.

 

Things aren't always what they seem."
 

 

The Invitation

 

When life is not being served up the way you think it should be, consider that there is a bigger picture, the shape of which is grander and more intricate than you can even imagine.

 

With time and distance we are repeatedly shown how today’s hardship can be tomorrow’s blessing and as a wonderfully insightful greeting card once stated;
 

“It all works out in the end. If it has not worked out yet, it’s not the end.”


Have faith and patience in the divine unfolding of your precious life and remember, if you are open, if you are willing to look, to listen for the good and the growth, it is always, always there.
 

With love,
 

 

Joelle

My father was dying.

 

It seemed like a good enough reason to not attend.

 

On the surface it sounded valid enough but if I were to be honest with myself, it was an excuse. A good excuse but an excuse none the less. 

 

It was my last year of university and I was part of a student organization of Peer Advisors.  We counseled fellow students on everything from stress management to cross-dressing.  On St Patrick’s day you would find us handing out green “in case you get lucky” prophylactics and we were practiced in giving condom application instruction using anything from bananas to a handy little device aptly named “woody” designed for  just the occasion.

 

The meeting, from which I was “excusing” myself this day was not STD related, but was instead of a more serious nature. It was an opportunity for Peers to share their experiences, to report, if you will, on their volunteer Peer Placement. 

 

Some were placed in Job Services, others in AIDS education, and two precious souls entrusted their semester to me in the “Peer Promotions Placement”, a function I developed to express my own creative promotional ideas in service of the organization.  The two team members who joined me in my quest were talented creatives able to bring my lofty visions to pen-and-paint-on-paper reality.

 

Leading up to the event, my team was not oozing confidence.  They seemed confused on what to report. They looked to me for direction but I pushed back.  They’d known about the meeting for months and on some level I was annoyed with their lack of initiative.

 

I left them to figure it out and sent them off to the meeting without me. 

 

Looking back, I must have known instinctually that something was about to hit the fan but I still wasn’t quiet ready for what went down.

 

 

Some People Are Born Leaders. Apparently, I was not.

 

 

“She treats us like TRAINED MONKEYS!!!”

 

That’s a direct quote, conveyed to me by the Peer Coordinator in the aftermath of my missed meeting. 

 

This comment was but a highlight in the litany of criticism they shelled out in my absence.  I was shocked, shamed and hurt, but to their credit, to this very day I have not heard micromanagement described more colorfully.

 

With the school year almost over and my father’s death a throbbing daily ache it was easy to plead ignorance, avoid the whole situation and miss the lesson.  But as with all essential life lessons, this one was going to keep coming at me until I got it.

 

 

Feed back delivered:

 

Response: Avoidance

 

 

12 months later I found myself once again called into the office.  I was one of a dozen youth employment agents, who matched students with summer employment.

 

Sitting across from my boss, Doris delivered her message fast and hard without preamble.

 

Joelle. EVERYONE is complaining about you. You are REALLY ABRASIVE.”

 

My reaction was a one two punch of defense and resentment followed by justification and a healthy dose of righteousness thrown in for good measure. 

 

I rationalized that “everyone” was clearly an unnecessarily dramatic overstatement and I was sure the whole thing was related to a particularly blatant display of incompetence from my fellows regarding the PROPER and AGREED UPON placement of the ever-important client file paperclip (SIDE, NOT TOP! When were they going to get that strait?!)

 

 

Feedback Delivered:

 

Response: Justification

 

 

Next stop,  Manpower.

 

It was a couple years into my employment as a branch manager and whether it was out of a desire for growth or a hunger for success, I had begun to seek out opportunities for development. 

 

I learned all “7 Habits”, I was quick to throw out a deserved “Whale Done!” and I rallied my team to create “Raving Fans”.

 

Despite all my hard work. I ended up in the office yet again! Actually, more specifically, my staff member, Anna, came to my office, and she had news to deliver. 

 

She was there as an ambassador of the team. She had come to tell me that they felt I was disengaged and distant and that I was not leading them.

 

She had me. It was true. I had been avoiding and hiding out. 

 

Thanks to Anna’s act of faith and courage the feedback was delivered and I got back to the business of being the leader that I was committed to being. 

 

 

 

Feedback Delivered:

 

Response:  Action

 

 

Fast forward to 2004, I was running a branch in Tempe, AZ and I was on an active quest for great leadership, effective communication and professional satisfaction.  I had received my coaching certification and every interaction with a team member, coworker or client was a place for service, an opportunity for growth and a chance to live more fully as “a fearless leader igniting the sparkle in people’s eyes.”

 

I was having lots of meetings in my office those days, but these meetings had a slightly different tone.

 

As Heather was promoted to a higher-paying position in another division she had some feedback to convey.

 

“I really mean it when I say that the hardest part of leaving was to know that you were not going with me. Thank you for making me feel I can reach my full potential and that I should never stop pushing myself to be the best I can be.”

 

Brenda had a few choice words herself as she was on her way out the door, promoted to the onsite position she had actively pursued and won.

 

“Joelle is by far the most personable, vivacious, understanding and knowledgeable manager. She has always made a fun work environment, she is excellent with people and has a wonderful, true caring personality.” (Take THAT Doris!)

 

 

Feedback Delivered:

 

Response: Do the happy dance!

 

 

Even reading this today I am a little in awe at how far I have come. 

 

I share this journey with you for a couple of reasons. 

 

1) First of all, I have always wanted to share the “trained monkeys” story, it was so absolutely brutal to receive at an already devastating time in my life but it is a part of my story and in the telling of it I cracked myself up and hopefully helped you realize that no case is hopeless. 

 

2) Secondly I want to demonstrate how we all start somewhere.  Whatever feedback you are getting now in your life, consider it a gift, something to help you grow. 

 

And remember, if you don’t get the lesson the first time, don’t worry, it will come around to hit you upside the head again sooner or later (at this point in our lives my friends and I have made it a habit to get the message when it is a tap on the shoulder instead of waiting until it is a brick flying at your head.)

 

3) Finally, as I look back at my personal path from controlling, abrasive and avoidant to fearless and loving leader, I see it as an example of our capacity to grow in the direction of our desires. 

 

I never wanted to be a jerk boss or a freakishly annoying coworker – I just didn’t know how to do any different.  The feedback received along the way gave me an awareness of how I was showing up in the world and with that awareness came the opportunity to make a new choice; a choice to adjust, to learn, to seek my inner leader, grow into a higher version of myself and reap the rewards.

 

 

The Invitation:

 

 

The idea of feedback being a gift was first presented to me by Jim W. an internal trainer at Manpower.  This one idea radically changed the exchange of information in our office and opened the door to a world of growth.

 

Whether it’s a direct message a la “trained monkey’s” or more subtle like the whole family secretly feeding your casserole to the dog, take a deep breath, and remember, feedback is a gift if you dare to receive and unwrap. 

 

May all your feedback come to you from a place of love and may you have the strength and courage to find the lesson before the bricks start flying.

 

XO

 

Joelle

Building Your Bucket List

Author: coach joelle
August 5, 2010

 

 

Twenty year from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. 
So throw off the bowlines.
 
Sail away from the safe harbor. 
Catch the trade winds in your sails. 

Explore. Dream. Discover.                        
~ Mark Twain

 

 

Hi guys!

 

A month ago my good friend Leslie called in an impassioned state.

 

She had just come from a business meeting where they’d created “bucket lists” and having left with only “3 measly things” on her list she was looking for a way to bulk it up a bit.

 

She asked me to facilitate a Bucket List Party at her place and I was a HUGE “YES!” A bucket list designed around your passions can powerfully support you living an extraordinary life and, of course, I’m all about that! (It also didn’t hurt that Leslie promised to make her signature Cosmos.)

 

The 20 women who joined us enthusiastically embraced the challenge and in two hours of creativity, play and cosmo-infused bravado they produced some amazing life adventures!

 

The best part of all was to see Leslie, beaming, proudly waving her robust list in the air. Mission accomplished.

 

I wrote my own list that night and no sooner had those dreams hit the paper, the opportunities began showing up all around me. (Life rocks that way.)

 

Are you ready to build your bucket list?

 


I’ve got 2 ways for you to do it.

 


1) Read this week’s article (below),
grab an hour for yourself and build that list!

 


OR

 


2) Join me and the Life Makers Mastermind For The Bucket List Party
on Wednesday August 11 at 12:00-1:00 EST and we will build your list together
. SIGN ME UP

 

Making it happen,

 


Joelle

 


Building the Bucket List

 

 

1) You Name It

 

 

Let’s face it. The term “Bucket List” is, at best, a little uninspired and, at worst, downright morbid. When I hear “Bucket List” I immediately generate images of crotchety old men and even the phrase “kick the bucket” seems a crass and insensitive term for the end of a life.  Step 1 is to name your list something that excites and moves you.

 

Perhaps it will be your “Extraordinary life list” or “My Top 100 “or “Living life to the fullest”. Your list, you name it.

 

 

2) Dare To Be Bold


To make a juicy list worthy of your life, you will want to come at this with an open mind, flexibility and a willingness to be bold.

 

As ideas come to you, don’t label, judge or doubt them. If you want to do it, write it down.

 

Dare to be risky and think big. Write down stuff that excites you and simultaneously scares the heck out of you, and you have the beginnings of a list that will change your life!

 

 

2) Don’t Worry About The “How”

 


Now is not the time to worry about how you are going to make your list happen.  Trying to figure it out is only going to block your creative flow, so skip it.

 

It is not your job to know, you have a whole lifetime to figure that out and you cannot imagine what will transpire between now and then to bring the items on your list into being.

 

I would go so far as to say that if you only put down things that you already know how to do, the things you are certain you can make happen, then you are missing the point and robbing yourself of a real opportunity to add juice to your life.

 

 
3) Embrace Your Awesomeness

 


Enough prep, it’s time to get those juices flowing.

 

 

On a blank piece of paper write down 3-5 amazing things that you have already accomplished, seen or experienced in your life.  These are things that, had you made a bucket list in 2nd grade, they would have made the list.

 

It may be:
 

- finding the love of your life

- Going to Disney World

- Having a baby

- Seeing the great wall of china

- Parasailing

 

One of mine was definitely the up close and personal moment with two Killer whales in British Columbia last summer. (We were in Kayaks, they were within 15 feet of us, it was AMAZING!)

 

 

4) Let it All Out:

 

Now you have an inkling of your capacity to do amazing things, it is time to start coming up with items for your list. You likely already have ideas mulling around in your head, those long seeded dreams, that trip through the Australian outback by camel, that shiny red Corvette that has been calling to you since you were seven. Write anything that comes up. 

 

Remember: Your bucket list is not just for exotic travel locations or bungee jumping, it is the list for everything that you want to become, experience and create in your life.

 

Just let it all out. Get to it!

 


5) Engage in A little Mind Expansion

 

Question: How many of you think I can turn a drinking glass into a convertible BMW?

 

When I asked this question at the bucket list party I did not get too many votes of confidence (ouch!)

 

So I went on to tell the story of a remarkable young man I interview the other week who turned a novelty red paperclip into…. Get this…. A HOUSE!

 

Yep! Kyle McDonald began his adventure with one red paperclip on July 12, 2005 and 14 trades and one year later, on July 12, 2006 he got a house in Kipling, Saskatchewan!

 

Kyle’s story is remarkable while at the same time it is something that anyone with a big idea, passion and gumption can do.

 

I share this with you to open you up to allowing yourself to write down what you really want, even if it is bizarre or seemingly impossible. 

 

The airplane would not exist if the Wright brothers hadn’t wanted so desperately to fly.  What do you want desperately? What do you want to experience? What of this world do you want to see?

 

Write it on your list!

 

 

6) Get Your Google On!

 

To beautifully round out your list it is time to get your "Google on!" or Yahoo or whatever your search engine of choice might be.  Pull up a web browser and try searching for some of these:

 

“Bucket List Ideas”
“100 things to do before you die”
“Top 100 travel destinations”

 

Get creative…

 

You like personal development? Google that.
You like sports and athletics? Google that. 
You like quilting? Google that.

 

An intimate hour with you and your Google search and you are certain to have enough items on your list to keep you vibrant and adventuring for a lifetime.

 

Final thoughts:

 

When my husband turned 40 he wrote a list of things he would do before he was 50. It was a short list that included things like the bachelor party he never had, scuba diving and “lots more whales and dolphins”.  A little background on Jeff – when we went on our honeymoon 3 years ago he abandoned his snorkel buddy (me) because he was just not all right “swimming through the shark’s living room” as he so creatively put it.

 

I share this with you because less than a year later, while I was facilitating this bucket list party, not only was Jeff out on a boat with “lots more dolphins” but he actually got into the “shark’s living room!!” Repeatedly!

 

He dove no less than 6 times, two of which were open sea shark dives (you heard me, no cage, scuba diving with sharks!)  To top it all off, while he was there checking off items from his list he was invited on a trip to swim with humpback whales in the Dominican Republic!  And if you look at item #2 on my list below ( I call dibs on manifesting that one!) you know I will be joining him.

 

You write it down and the universe starts delivering.

 

It’s time to start writing!!

 

Join Joelle and the Life Makers Mastermind for a facilitated Bucket List Experience Wednesday August 11, 2010 12:00-1:00 Eastern by phone.  SIGN ME UP!

 

With Love,

 

Joelle

 


My Kick-Butt Amazing Life List

 

  1. See a blue whale
  2. See humpbacks breach
  3. See humpbacks bubble net
  4. Buy my dream house on the lake/ocean
  5. Experience my 50th wedding anniversary and be more in love that I am today
  6. Understand the very nature of life
  7. Have a 10 year wedding celebration/vow renewal that is magical, beautiful, moving and transformative
  8. Do a wine and food tour of Italy
  9. Stay for 2 weeks – a month in an Italian Village
  10. Write a book that touches lives and makes the world a better place
  11. See my husband thoroughly and deeply passionate and fulfilled in his work
  12. To see my mom find love again
  13. Learn to dance (ballroom, hiphop, whatever) and perform regularly on stage
  14. Be part of a fun contemporary “up with people” experience or “glee club”
  15. Experience my body strong, lean and radiant
  16. Have someone make my clothes
  17. Have an out of body experience
  18. Compete on The Amazing Race
  19. Create inspiring/empowering jewelry (and it be a HUGE hit!)
  20. Have a healthy happy baby
  21. Dance fabulously with my husband
  22. Ride horses regularly
  23. Go indoor skydiving
  24. Bungee jump
  25. Ropes course
  26. Go fire walking
  27. Experience weightlessness
  28. Have a meaningful conversation with Alanis Morissette
  29. Go white water rafting
  30. Share a ski vacation with Jeff
  31. Learn how to sew my own clothes
  32. Attend a Tony Robbins event
  33. Have an organic garden or participate in a community garden
  34. Leave a valuable contribution in your area of personal development and life creation
  35. Find  a spiritual community
  36. Have an outdoor hot tub
  37. Road trip up the west coast of America – 2-4 weeks camping and B & B (some major wine tasting in there)
  38. Find a spiritual mentor
  39. Attend a TED Talk
  40. Speak at a TED talk

And much more to come. Have an idea for my list? Leave it in the comments. I am always up for a new adventure!

 

P.S. If you happen to know a resource to make anything on this list come true, don’t hesitate to leave a note I appreciate any support the universe will deliver. J

 

HIYA! Coach Joelle here to report that last week I totally crashed and burned in my integrity experiment.

 

How could such a thing happen?  You ask… And to a coach?!!!
 

 

Well,
 

 

I could explain how after a glass of wine, one scoop of gelato is just not sufficient and how when your mother in law makes blueberry cobbler for brunch you eat it, lots of it.
 

 

I could justify how work has been so busy and exciting that there was just no time to take 15 minutes to meditate (3 days in a row.) 
 

 

I could tell you that when your spouse’s alarm wakes you up 2 hours early 2 days in a row it’s no wonder everything else goes to pot!
 

 

I could tell you that but it is all just excuses and nonsense.
 

 

Don’t get me wrong, I am not beating myself up or being all mean.   My 30 days of living to my highest ideals was a gift to myself after all, not a punishment.   I even called this undertaking an “experiment” with the intention that I would be learning about what it takes to be in integrity with myself. And so after finding several fascinating ways NOT to live up to my highest ideals, it is time to recommit.
 

 

An often quoted speech from the “Maliwada Human Development Training School”  defines integrity as:
 

 

“the singularity of thrust of a life committed and ordering every dimension of the self towards that commitment.”
 

 

“a destinal resolve – a resolve that chooses and sets your destiny and out of which your whole life is ordered.”

 

If I look honestly, my “destinal resolve” the last few days has been towards being caught up in the world, being a victim to my cravings, making myself sick on blueberry cobbler and living my life confused, wishy washy and a little grumpy.  Nice.
 

 

Good to know.  

 

 

And so, without further whining, excuses or self flagellation, I will reference my original integrity experiment commitment, for there I have written what I chose as my “singularity of thrust” for my life (or at least for these 30 days.)


Clarity

 

Connection to source

 

Health

 

Fearlessness

 

Love

 

Oh yah,  I like that much better.

 

Today I take notice and I readjust myself back on course to engage these final seven days with new clarity and renewed commitment. 

 

Deep breath….. own your stuff….. recommit…… do what it takes.
 

 

With love and renewed integrity.
 

 

Joelle

Well hello!

 

 

It is almost bedtime Sunday night but I needed to touch base to let you know that I will be giving a full update of my Integrity Experiment tomorrow.

 

It has been quite a ride, complete with a colossal crash and burn Friday that I look forward to sharing with you.

 

Each day I find myself a little more. 

 

Each day I get a little clearer about what Integrity is and what it means to live in it. 

 

Each day, the totally stellar ones and the really rough ones, bring with them lessons and illumination (particularly the rough ones.)

 

My bed calls to me longingly but I will fill you in tomorrow.

 

Much love and gentle compassion to you in your own walk with integrity.

 

Joelle

 

Hi guys,

 

I have a treat for you this week.

 

It is my honor and pleasure to introduce a very special woman, someone who I have come to know and love deeply. She is a bright light in the world and an amazing example of what it looks like when you boldly take on the process of consciously creating life.

 

Alexandra Jaye Johnson is the creator of www.MyGoddessLife.com, and the Rock Your Goddess Life programs, and is the Chief Community Goddess of CleanProgram.com.

 

I recently interviewed Alexandra as part of the Make Your Life Interview Series, and her journey to knowledge, optimum health, passionate contribution and great love holds lessons for all of us who are out to live our lives by design.

 

Find a comfy spot, grab a smoothie and join me as I speak with the Chief Goddess herself!

 

XO

 

Joelle

 

Make Your Life Interview with Chief Goddess, Alexandra Jaye Johnson

 

 

Alexandra Jaye Johnson is a Goddess. She is the creator of www.MyGoddessLife.com, the Rock Your Goddess Life programs and the Chief Community Goddess of CleanProgram.com. She is a passionate student, a lover of life and she will tell you that she is full of love, laughter, divinity, & yummy food!  Listen as she shares how you can get your goddess on! 

 

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Hi guys!

 

I didn’t want to close out the week without an update and a little inspiration to keep you going or gently nudge you into getting started on your integrity experiment.
 

 

Already, worlds are changing for the better as people take on living as their highest selves.

 

 

 

• In Canada, a single mom followed her heart, declined a late night bootie call and learned something meaningful about her own value.

 

 

• In LA, the roads are a little safer through one woman’s commitment to only use her cell phone hands free.

 

 

• In Australia, a coach is living louder, raising his spiritual connection and walking his talk.

 

 

• And in Atlanta, a child is getting daily quality time with her mom.
 

 

AWESOME and wow!
 

 

As for me, this new level of intentional living has resulted in:

 

1 lb lost (never to be found again)
 

 

56$ saved in Starbucks decaf-soy cappuccino’s that I did not drink,
 

 

Mediation for more days strait than I can remember,
 

 

New learning that dark subject-matter in entertainment leads to darkness in the subconscious (violent movie = violent dreams. No thanks!)
 

 

Discovery of the importance of having 1 night a week responsibility-free (including free from making dinner or conversation) and a system to make it happen,
 

 

Reclamation of 2-3 extra hours of sleep nightly and progress towards being a well-rested woman,
 

 

Consultation with an applied kinesiology chiropractor and an energy worker to move my health forward and raised my body temperature from 96.5 to 97.5 degrees (WOO to the HOO!),
 

 

Compassionate, cathartic and intuitive conversation with my dear friend Jennifer which has already proved transformative,
 

 

Reaping the rewards in my marriage in more ways than I can count….
 

 

And it is only day 14!
 

 

With 16 more to go, will you join me? Learn more.

 

Whether you choose to live to your highest ideals for 1 day or all 16, the resultant intention, focus and thoughtful action will propel you forward, provide insight and guide you toward living the life you have imagined.
 

 

Jump on in! Read how you can get started here and be sure to keep me posted.
 

 

To your life!
 

 

Joelle

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