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Hi guys!

 

As you know it’s been my great joy and honor to share the powerful life-making tools of Life Coaching for over a decade.

 

What you may not know is that since 2001 I have also been supporting leaders to design their careers and businesses on purpose; working with everyone from small business owners to general Managers running $80,000,000.00 businesses across myriad industries as an Executive Coach.

 

For years I have served as a professional coach for life and business and for years I have pondered how to best straddle these two worlds. While clients and close friends began pointing out that “coaching” is “coaching” whether I’m serving a CEO who wants to create a culture of engagement or an individual who wants to find their personal passion, I was still aware that the global business leader may have slightly different needs and priorities than the individual seeking joyful living.

 

And so it was that www.coachjoelleinc.com was born!

 

 

 

 

For my corporate clients: The good news is that the next time you want to refer your boss, peer or team member for a leadership tune- up you can send him or her to a less intimate and more professionally-geared business coaching site that will speak their language. www.coachjoelleinc.com

 

For my life coaching clients: We will continue to play at coachjoelle.com. This opens up the opportunity for us all to more fully share the latest revelations, epiphanies and generally mind-blowing stuff that arises as we walk the path to fulfilling on our highest purpose and uncover the mysteries and miracles of this thing called life.

 

If you have an employer or you are one: I invite you to take 5 minutes and check out the new site www.coachjoelleinc.com and see what it stirs up in you.

 

As you read the success stories of the courageous leaders who have gone before you be sure to ponder:

 

A) Who do you know who could use a coach in their corner?

 

B) Who are the managers in your world that want to give more and get more from their teams?

 

C) What would you like to achieve in your career or business that would be worth your time, attention and commitment?

 

And then pick up the phone and give me a call at 216 320 9298 or tell your colleagues to sign up for a no-cost consultation and let’s start shaking things up!

 


Here’s to rocking lives and transforming corporate America!

 


Coach Joelle

 

Coaching Joelle inc.
Empowering Leaders. Igniting Success.
www.coachjoelleinc.com

Hi Gang!

 

Last week things felt a little heavy.

 

After years of being a coach I know that a little heaviness is OK. I do not have to be over-the-moon happy every second of the day and, as my mother says, “this too shall pass”.

 

It wasn’t anything particularly dramatic – I just felt a little “off”. I spent the week cracking jokes about how the recent solar flares were creating a disturbance in “The Force” and simply rode out the grey.

 

Over the weekend I was preparing for the March 20th launch of the Make Your Life Program by taking myself through the process that each new LifeMaker undertakes as they begin to uncover what they want to create and experience in their life from our time together.

 

Even though I have spent years with this process and practice and teach it daily, it always presents new surprises – and always the very best kind!

 

As I re-took the Make Your Life quiz and began filling out the accompanying “Prelude to a Dream” form a week of gloom began to lift.

 

With each question something new was unlocked and at some whole other level my very being reorganized itself.

 

Right there at the dining room table I witnessed the amazing process that unfolds when we focus and bring intention to our lives from a place of harmony, truth and light. And this is exactly why I created this program.

 

 

In a world of pressure, stress, fear and never-ending to do’s there is a more simple, more graceful and joyful way to live and each lesson of the Make Your Life program teaches you how to dance toward the future you want most while enjoying every juicy minute of the unfolding.

 

After delighting in the process of reconnection and grounding, the final question on the form brought the day’s journey to a head.

 

If you could fill in this blank with any word or words that best describe the life you would like to create, what word(s) would you use?

 

My __________________________ Life!

 

 

The answer sprang into my awareness without effort or resistance.

 

For the next two months as I support the new LifeMakers in creating their lives I will be living:

 

My Radiant Magical Life!

 

(Oh Ya Baby!)

 

As the forms roll in from those who will be joining me on the adventure, I get to glimpse into what is ahead for them.

 

One is creating her Joyful life!

 

Another A Healthy and Energized life!

 

Another A Balanced life.

 

And still another An Aligned and Peaceful life.

 

And this all from the pre-work form…. Look out Week 1 – Here we come!

 

What life will you make?

 

Join me for the adventure!

 

We begin Tuesday. Learn More

 

Joelle


 

 

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Hi Guys!  

 

I was out for dinner last week with a dear friend when the conversation turned to sustaining happiness and quality of life.

 

“How long have you been here?” my friend asked, gesturing in my general direction.

   

I knew that by “here” she did not mean the restaurant or even Cleveland. What she was referencing was my way of “being”, the person I had become.

 

I paused. “About 10 years -ever since I started living the principles.” I responded thoughtfully. “Life is a lot more balanced, the highs aren’t “manic” and the lows only go so low and they are not low for long. I’m happy and life is nothing short of an adventure.”

 

“I know!” she exclaimed.  “It is like I am living in this entirely different zone! I am more happy than I have ever been in my life!”

    

To see this enthusiasm for life, this spontaneous expression of joy and awe for living, is why I created the Make Your Life Program. 

 

 

Living in this “zone” where we stand responsible and powerful in support of our own happiness and in the creation of our dreams – this is totally where it is at!

 

Only 13 short months ago, this friend found me on the internet and hired me as her coach. I did not know it when we first met but apparently that time she reached out to me was the lowest of her life.  A dark period at the edge of what had been several dark years.

 

Together we got her reconnected to what really matters to her, to the longings of her heart that had been stifled out of doubt and fear. 

 

She turned her thinking around.  Having always had an idea of the importance of optimism and how your thoughts create, this time she really got it, owned it and made focusing on the positive her top priority.

 

She took massive action to make her dreams real and life started unfolding in the most awesome ways.

 

3 months later she gave notice – she was ready to leave her stifling work environment and launch the business she had dreamed of for years.

 

6 months into self-employment she had sold enough business to cover her family’s finances for all of the following year.

 

Today she is a powerful business owner, committed wife and mother and she is on a mission to bring so much goodness to the world.

 

It is an honor to be part of her journey to truth, to joy and to fulfillment and I would love to be a part of yours.

 

There is nothing I want more than to see you bringing your gifts to the world.

 

To see you freed-up.

 

To see you shine.

 

That is why I created the Make Your Life Program.

 

We begin March 20th for 8 weeks of totally rocking LifeMaking.

 

Read all about it HERE.

 

Share it with your friends.  Call me if you have questions:  1 (216) 320-9298

 

It’s time to Make Your Life!  

  

Joelle    

 

 

   

Hi Guys!

 

 

I know it has been awhile.  Ok, longer than awhile.  It’s been FOREVER since I wrote a full-on blog post!

 

 

You see, I have been in this interesting place; a place where contemplation and grounding have been more important than action and output.

 


Many months ago, I went through an uncommon period of activity that was so intense and so demanding that something mind-boggling happened!  For a period of no less than 5 weeks I was so swept up in life that I totally and completely forgot to Make My Life.

 


Me, Coach Joelle, the master Life-Maker, creator of the Make Your Life Program! The person who loves nothing more than to create life and live my dreams – and I had totally disconnected from all that I value, from all that I am in the name of productivity and a mad dash to who knows where?.

 


Once I had woken up, things became very clear:

 


1) 5 weeks of unconscious living was NOT OK! In no way was this the quality of life experience that I found acceptable for myself.

 


2) I realized anew that if I could totally lose sight of my own creative power and my process anyone could and I had some serious work to do.

 


First things first -  I had to step back … WAYYYYY BACK! I looked at the myriad projects, ambitions, aspirations I had, the programs I wanted to write and the products I wanted to deliver and asked myself:

 


a) Why do you want to build this?

 


b) Is this project/action/ambition essential to your career, fulfilling you destiny, maintaining or growing your way of life?

 


c) Are any of these projects just “nice ideas”? If they never happened would it affect my income, my purpose, my level of joy?

 


d) Does all this have to be done right now?

 


e) What is most essential?

 


The things that were most important rose to the top and everything else had to wait until I had the space to invite them back in. So here is what made the top of the list other than, of course, serving my amazing clients and making my life:

 

 


Building The New Coach Joelle Inc. Business Coaching Site

 

 

 

One of the things I had been struggling with was that, more and more, I was reconnecting to executive coaching and serving inside of businesses but the truth was that my Coach Joelle site was never designed to do that.

 


I found myself w
riting these newsletters knowing that I had executive clients that may not want to hear about the “magic of life” or how I secretly think that I have a direct line to Arianna, Queen of the Forest (ya, I know – I’m not kidding.)

 


It became really clear that, in order to have full self- expression in all areas on my life and to be able to contribute what I was here to contribute, it was time to break out my business into two communities:

 


1) My executive business community -  whom I serve through business coaching and the iLead Self- Mastery Program and

 


2) The LifeMakers – those who want to join me in the dance of consciously creating their life through the Make Your Life program and life coaching.

 


We are still a couple months out but I wanted to share with you the beginnings of what is sure to be a kick butt business coaching site!!  I am so proud of this – it is beautiful and empowering and it is going to totally take my executive coaching to the next level.

 

 Here is a sneak peak:

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Coming soon! I will let you know when it launches!

 

 

Recreating The Make Your Life Program

 

 

The other essential undertaking was to recreate the Make Your Life Program, integrating all of the new clarity and awareness that had arisen over the years since I first conceived of it.  As far as I can tell, my job in this life is to raise the consciousness of the planet by seeking to understand the nature of life and share it with others.  The Make Your Life Program does that in a powerful and profound way and I am very proud of what it has become.

 


Over the months to come I will be sharing much of the wisdom in the Make Your Life Program in this blog and I will also give you an opportunity to join me for the next live program. But, for starters, I wanted to introduce you to the entry point of it all! The Make Your Life Quiz!

 


I created this quiz to help people determine:

 


a) Are you powerfully making your life?

 


b) Where are you strong in LifeMaking and where could you use more support?

 


c) What are the specific actions you can take to move into a more powerful place?

 


If you want to find out where you currently sit on the LifeMaking scale, go ahead and give it a try!

 


   
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Beyond these essentials I have been taking care of my body, loving my husband and creating my life and, with these major projects coming to fruition, I am ready to get more of my energy out into the world .

 

 

So, expect to hear more from me in the months to come and if there is anything you need, if you want to connect or get talked out of a rut or off a ledge or into an adventure, don’t hesitate to reach out.

 


I hope you are totally loving your life and I look forward to connecting again soon.

 

 

With love,

 

Joelle

 


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joelle new years jeff middleHappy New Year!!

 

I hope your New Year is off to a totally rocking start!

 

Jeff and I launched the year in style at an Alter Ego Party (Best darn idea for a New Year’s Party yet!)  Drinking Kale/apple juice and eating vegetables, I went as Arianna, Queen of the forest and, as you can see, if my husband could be anyone he’d be a Northern resident Orca (A61 to be specific.) 

 

Sure it looks like we are having fun but beneath the flowing red locks and protruding dorsal fin you will see two people declaring their truth and living their passion. I aspire to being a vegan green juicing goddess and Jeff wants to save the whales. It was the best New Year’s Eve ever and I didn’t have a drop of alcohol.

 

I know you have dreams too. There are pieces of your life that itch for change, ideas that want to take form, and to support you on your journey I have a Life-Making treat to kick-off your 2012.

 

Last week, the Life Makers Mastermind launched with a guided visualization where our future selves showed us around the exciting new life we are about to create. It totally rocked so I had to share.

 

To support you in making 2012 a year to remember I have decided to share our call with you. If you are ready to DREAM BIG, set aside 15 minutes, find a quiet spot, grab a pen and paper and enjoy the journey into your inspired future!

 

 

http://www.coachjoelle.com/lifemakers_journey_to_the_future.mp3

 


Download Instructions: To open the file you can click directly on the link (It will take a few moments to open) or right click and “Save Target As” to save it to your computer. Enjoy!

 

 

Open Enrollment For The Life-Makers MasterMind Ends January 15th:

If you are committed to making this year YOUR YEAR – If you are ready to do what it takes and you would like the support of an inspired community, regular accountability and your own personal coach, the Life Makers MasterMind is the place you want to be.  Learn More or Call Me Now 216 320 9298 to get in before the January 15th deadline.

 

 

Wishing you empowerment, clarity and BIG DREAMS for 2012!


Joelle
 

IT'S THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR!!

 

Yes, the holiday season is upon us but what is perhaps even more exciting than Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and New Year's all rolled together is….

 

wait for it… wait for it….

 

  PLANNING TIME!!!!!

 

  Seriously, I rarely have more fun than when I take a day just for me and my business, find a cozy spot, pull out the poster board, goals forms, charts, markers (you name it) and dig into creative planning and goal setting to launch a new project or, in this case, a new year!

 

Since I figure I am not the only one who loves to do this, I wanted to put an offer out to those of you in my tribe who are ready to create the vision for a new year and would like the support and partnership of a coach by your side.

 

So this holiday season, if you are an entrepreneur with big plans, or an individual who is ready for a year like no other, why not launch the year with your own VIRTUAL PLANNING RETREAT with me?!

 

I was in the Atlanta airport coming home from a foundation session with a new corporate client when I got the idea. You can check out the moment of epiphany below.

 

 

 

So here is the scoop.

 

What we are talking is a 4-hour intensive 1-on-1 virtual coaching retreat - you, me, your goals and your vision of the future and together we will create, plan and play our way to setting you up for a powerful year.

 

If you have Skype we can Skype it or if you are more of a phone person we can do that too. But basically you will have me at your service with all my ability, knowledge, tools and experience as a coach, entrepreneur, leader and life-maker.

 

For the holidays - and because this is probably my favorite way to spend an afternoon – the price for your retreat is a neat $800.00 ($400.00 savings) and that price lasts until all slots are taken or until I head for my own week-long wellness retreat the 3rd week in January (whichever comes first.)

 

There are 12 slots available so if you are interested in being one of my 12, call or email me to set up a launch session.  We will spend 30 minutes getting acquainted and getting a feel for what you want to create on the big day.  From there we will set up your retreat and we are off to the races!

 

To schedule your virtual coaching retreat just call me 216 320 9298

 

or

 

email me at joelle@coachjoelle.com

 

to set up our launch session and start getting those juices flowing for the big day!

 

Hope you are enjoying the bustle of the holidays and the excitement of the new year that awaits!

 

Joelle

 Hello dear ones,

 

I know I have been quiet over here but I had to step out and share a beautiful new novel with you. Scott Blum has a habit or writing books that delight and inspire and Winter Moon Rises, about the hidden secrets of unborn children, is sure to do just that.

 

Scott Blum is the co-founder of the DailyOM website and his third book, Winter Moon Rises, is a achingly personal exploration of the hidden secrets of unborn children. This unique & easy to read novel follows Scott and his soul mate (and DailyOM co-founder) Madisyn, as they embark on an insight-filled spiritual awakening where they discover how their entire history has ultimately laid the foundation for their expected child's future. Exploring ancient rituals and ancestral healing, Scott and Madisyn come to understand that we all remain connected to the magical world of unborn children long after we become adults.

 

Click here for Winter Moon Rises

 

In addition, Scott is giving away a spa weekend for two at the Mount Shasta Resort to celebrate the release of his new book where you can relax at the foot of the majestic Mount Shasta in Northern California which is featured in the book. There are also over 100 free gifts for anyone that orders the book today.

 

I'd like to leave you with a quote from Winter Moon Rises:

 

 

"The first thing to remember is that conceiving a baby is not the same as creating a baby from nothingness," Martika explained with a familiar sparkle in her eye that emerged whenever she shared her vast metaphysical knowledge. "Every baby's soul has always existed, and as new parents, you are just inviting it into your life. But it's the initial process of a child choosing its parents that I find most fascinating."
- From WINTER MOON RISES by Scott Blum

 

 

I encourage you to visit the link above and see if the book resonates with you as it does with me.

 

Enjoy! With Love,

 

Joelle

 Hi guys!

 

I am so excited to share today’s Make Your Life Interview with you! 

 

My guest today is the founding editor of Experience Life Magazine, Pilar Gerasimo and she is one amazing woman with a message that will change your life.

 

As you hear the details of Pilar’s journey, you will be inspired by how her desire to create a different kind of health magazine (one that was not all about fad diets and 6-pack abs) and a willingness to take risks and take action set circumstances in motion to have her living a life that is best described as a dream come true.

 

Today as a result of Pilar’s desire to impact the health and vitality of the American public she has done nothing less than create her own revolution! 

 

In a world where fast food, chronic stress, prescription symptom-masking and a computer-to-couch lifestyle is the norm, and drinking green juice and meditating is considered “a little weird”, Pilar asserts that seeking health truly is a revolutionary act. 

 

Pilar’s new site www.revolutionaryact.com embodies this message and challenges the way our society is leaning, putting the knowledge (and hence, the power) back in your hands to choose to be revolutionary for the sake of your own health, vitality and longevity.

 

Whether you are inspired to take a new look at how you treat your body or you are moved to pursue your dreams, Pilar’s story is sure to empower you to Make Your Life  

  

Joelle

  

Make Your Life Interview with Pilar Gerasimo

 

 

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Pilar Gerasimo is the founding editor of Experience Life Magazine, a whole-person health and fitness magazine that reaches more than two million women and men nationwide.


But this magazine is different than a lot of what you will find out there in the world of health and fitness: No six-pack-abs sensationalism or bikini-body obsessions; no
diets or overnight miracle weight loss schemes; just the practical wisdom and real-life inspiration you need to achieve the healthy life goals that matter to YOU. 


Available on newsstands at Whole Foods and Barnes & Noble and also by subscription, Experience Life has won numerous awards and earned high praise from leading health experts, including Dr. Mehmet Oz. The magazine’s tagline — “Being Healthy Is a Revolutionary Act” — reflects one of Pilar’s deepest personal convictions: that choosing to be healthy in an unhealthy culture requires unconventional choices and perspectives, and that when you make that choice it positively transforms not just your own life, but the lives of everyone around you. 


Pilar’s central passion is empowering people to live their healthiest, most authentic lives so that they can give their best gifts — and thereby help change the world for the better. Pilar lives with her husband Zack and their three-legged pitbull on an organic cooperative family farm in western Wisconsin.

 

 

Listen Now! Coach Joelle Interviews Pilar Gerasimo

 

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The Make Your Life Interview Series brings you visionaries, masters and everyday people who have discovered the magic available when you live on-purpose.  In each interview you will hear inspiring stories and gain practical insights to support you in reaching beyond your circumstances, accessing your personal power and creating a life in alignment with your values, dreams and aspirations.  To learn more about Coach Joelle go to www.coachjoelle.com

 


 

 


 

Hi gang,

 

We are a little more than a week into Q2 of 2011 and it’s about that time when the really ambitious, super-exciting ideas you had about your life in January may be seeming too fantastical, unrealistic, annoying or just plain depressing.

 

That’s the thing about goals and dreams. Unless you keep them close, visit them often, execute on a plan, and talk about them regularly, you may just find yourself months or even years into the future stunned by the realization that life didn’t turn out as you planned and that you are right back where you started, or even worse.

 

If you are feeling anything less than sparkly when it comes to those ambitions, goals and visions of the future, do not fear. I have a little process that can take you from listless to totally ready to rock in about 30 minutes flat.

 

In our last Life Makers MasterMind we checked in on everyone’s goals and walked through a series of questions to focus, empower and reinvigorate. I have included these questions for you.

 

So grab your goals, get your pen warmed up and reconnect to building your future, right now.

 

Joelle

 

 

Quarterly Goals Review

 

Give yourself 30 minutes to re-connect to your commitments, gain valuable insight and take action towards your 2011 goals.

 

 

Reality Check:

 

List your 2011 goals.

 

Record your current performance to goal.

 

Record the gap between where you are and where you intended to be by this time.

 

ie. Goal: $200,000/yr in sales. Actual: $100,000 in 3 months. $50,000 ahead

 

ie. Goal: weigh 140, feeling hot and healthy. Actual: Weigh 150. Lost 2 lbs in 3 months, have not yet developed the healthy habits to feel good every day and continue and sustain weight loss. 

 

 

What’s Working:

 

What are the successes you have experienced in the past 3 months – about your top goals and anything else you find significant?

 

What has worked/is working?

 

 

What’s not working:

 

Where did things not work?

 

Where/what situations or at what time did you find yourself falling down or moving in the wrong direction?

 

 

When you were connected to your goals and rocking it:

 

When did you feel really connected to your goal? What were you doing? What was happening in your life?

 

When were you feeling really disconnected to your goal? What were you doing? What was happening in your life?

 

 

Check in:

 

Are these still the right goals?

 

Why? Why not?

 

 

What you have learned and how you take that learning forward:

 

Based on your answers above – what are the things you already know work that you can put in place to support you in your goals?

 

 

Identify and manage for obstacles:

 

What are the potential obstacles or pitfalls that may come up in the future?

 

How can you manage for these pit falls through systems, process, plan, structure or rituals?

 

Note on rituals: The ritual of brushing our teeth morning and evening (or after meals) makes tooth hygiene a no-brainer. Do you need a daily green juice ritual or a show love to your spouse daily ritual or a weekly sales blitz ritual?

 

Note on planning to win: Remember we all like to feel like we are winning and moving forward. Is there a way you can track and celebrate baby steps?  Baby steps are all it takes to get anywhere you want to get and be anything you want to be.

 

 

Check your beliefs:

 

What old beliefs/fears would you like to remove to support future success?

 

What new belief would best support success?

 

 

Use Your Resources:

 

What (support/accountability/resources) could you ask for/seek out to ensure your success?

 

 

Get in action:

 

What action are you willing to commit to in support of your goals?

 

 

Nice Work! Now, using the insights gained through this exercise create your new execution plan, create the rituals, establish the new beliefs and reach out to get the needed support and accountability to have a breakthrough in achieving your goals!

 

Copyright ©2011 Coach Joelle, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

 

 How are you feeling? I am betting that right now you are reconnected to your goals, feeling empowered and seeing the action you can take to move your life forward (just a guess :-) )

 

We would love to hear about any new clarity you have gained or the new action you are ready to take so do not hesitate to comment below.

 

Here’s to a powerful Q2, and remember, that life is for living, not for later and every moment is an opportunity for you to Make Your Life.

 


Joelle


This exercise was created to support the members of the Life Makers MasterMind in blowing through their goals and living a great life in 2011.  The Life Makers Mastermind is a community of support, inspiration, education and accountability for those who choose to be the conscious creators of their lives, who want to passionately pursue their inspired goals and dreams and who wish to experience the magic of a life lived on purpose.

 

Learn more about the Life Makers Mastermind

 

 

Hi  Guys!

 

For our first Make Your Life Interview of 2011 it is my honor to introduce you to Top nutritionist, author and health expert Natalia Rose. 

 

I was first introduced to Natalia on my own journey to greater health and vitality.  As I read her books on raw food and detoxification, her approach that encouraged cleansing at a cellular level as the key to vibrant health, emotional balance and mental clarity stuck a powerful chord.

 

As you will hear in the interview, Natalia’s path to accessing what she calls “life force energy” through living food has taken her not just to optimum health but to a deep understanding of the nature of the human experience.

 

At one point in the interview all I have to say is “WOW!” as her sharing and insight literally expanded and blew my mind.

 

Whether you are gearing up for a more vital body, want to raise healthy children or are exploring the meaning of life, this interview will open up whole new worlds.

 

Enjoy!

 

 

Joelle

 

 

Make Your Life Interview with Natalia Rose

 

 

natalia-rose_photo_2A little bit about Natalia…

 

 Natalia Rose, is a graduate of New York University and a Clinical Nutritionist and she believes that cleansing at a cellular level is the key to vibrant health, emotional balance and mental clarity. 

 

In her private Manhattan practice, she works with some of the world's most body-conscious men and women, including models, actors, and media personalities.

 

Rose has been featured on NBC, FOX News, MSNBC, The View, NPR and in publications such as The New York Times, USA TODAY, Womens World, First For Women, The Enquirer, Yoga Journal, Hamptons Magazine and Psychology Today. 

 

Natalia offers this knowledge on her web site: http://www.detoxtheworld.com and in her books, The Raw Food Detox Diet, Raw Food Life Force Energy, The New Energy Body and Detox 4 Women.

 

 

Listen Now! Coach Joelle Interviews Natalia Rose 

 

  

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The Make Your Life Interview Series brings you visionaries, masters and everyday people who have discovered the magic available when you live on-purpose.  In each interview you will hear inspiring stories and gain practical insights to support you in reaching beyond your circumstances, accessing your personal power and creating a life in alignment with your values, dreams and aspirations.  To learn more about Coach Joelle go to www.coachjoelle.com

 


 

Welcome to 2011!

 

It’s the beginning of a new year and there is no better time to powerfully and intentionally put a stake in the ground for a 2011 to remember!

 

This Wednesday join me for the Life Maker’s MasterMind 2011 kick off meeting!

 

Set The Foundation For 2011
Wednesday January 12th
12:00 -1:00 Eastern
Call in Number: 712 432 3900
Access code: 813517#

 

 

Together we will design you year with Intention and start engaging in the practical steps to make this the year that

 

“you do it”,

 

“you get there”,

 

“you accomplish it”

 

and you find the happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction you have been seeking.

 

• If you could create anything for your life, what would you create?
 

• Where will you be on the journey 12 months from now?
 

• What are the specific goals that you will accomplish within that 12 month vision?

 

• How do you want to feel right now? What is the energy, the mood and the emotion that you want to embody as you walk the path?

 

 

To participate:

 

-Save the date and time in your calendar,

 

-Write down the call-in number and access code,

 

-And come ready to create your future!

 

Set The Foundation For 2011
Wednesday January 12th
12:00 -1:00 Eastern
Call in Number: 712 432 3900
Access code: 813517#

 

Do not miss your chance to set a solid foundation for an amazing year of Life-Making.

 

Join us, it’s time to rock your 2011.


Joelle

 

Note:  Please be sure to bring a pen and paper to the call and find a quite space where you can give your full attention to the creative process.
Also, no wireless headsets please as they tend to create feedback on the line. 

Cannot wait to create with you!

I'm Pretty Sure I Didn't Start Out Wimpy…

 


Jeff and I have been married almost 5 years.  When we came together it was truly an epic love story – the stars aligned and the angels sang as I was found by my perfect match.

 

Long before the man ever entered the picture I had a crystal clear vision of what we would be together.

 

I would settle for nothing less than true partnership – one where we would plan together, budget together and learn together. Together we would design our future and together we would revel in the dance of living into it.

 

When Jeff and I began it was all that and more. We planned, we built, we dreamed in tandem.  The world was our oyster and we were certain that together we could accomplish anything.

And then as time passed, the shiny new toy called “togetherness” lost its luster.

 

More and more we retreated to our separate offices to do our planning.

 

More and more my girlfriends knew my dreams and celebrated my goals -accomplished while my husband was relegated to the sidelines.

 

More and more I lived my life, wishing for better from him and for us. Once an advocate of inspiration and partnership I found myself increasingly in the roles of nag and martyr.

 

My disappointment grew as did my frustration and resentment.  I was waiting for my husband to come play with me and I could not understand what had gone wrong.

 


Start With The Man/Woman In the Mirror

 

But I knew one thing.

 

I knew that whenever things are not working the way I want, the first place to look is never over there, but always, always, always right here with the one staring back at me in the mirror.

 

There had to be something I was contributing here, or not contributing. Something that I was bringing to the equation that wasn’t adding up.

 

I looked and I wondered and I questioned until one sunny Monday afternoon something hit me like a bolt of lightning.

 

I had seen this pattern before in a totally different setting with a different cast of characters.

 

I was suddenly drawn back to around the year 2000 BC (Before Coaching),   back to when I was a manager unable to get what I needed from my team. Back to when I resented them and was frustrated with them for not doing their jobs, not being a team, not engaging with me.

 

It didn’t seem like it at the time but, back then, the problem was in the mirror too.

 

The day I owned it, took responsibility, stood up and started leading that team – truly, courageously and lovingly leading it – everything changed.

 

And with that…. The light bulb went on.

 

I realized I was being a total wimp in my marriage.

 

 

Nothing A Spine and A Monster Cookie Can’t Fix

 

So, the problem was not my guy. The problem was that I was not owning my power.

 

I was feeling sorry for myself, lamenting the things our relationship wasn’t, wishing that they would be, trying a little… but I knew that I had better in me than that.

 

I’m the coach for heaven’s sake! 

 

I’m the creator, the dreamer, the planner, the one that makes stuff happen. Heck! That’s a huge part of why he married me!

 

At what point I succumbed to mediocrity and resignation I am not sure but I can tell you this. I know when I got over it!

 

In that moment I got clear and I got brazen.

 

I opened up my Outlook calendar and sent my husband a "Meeting Request."

 

Subject: “Tonight 7- 8 pre-Chuck Friedman family meeting with wine (on the table, not from the participants) and snacks.”  (SEND)

 
(For anyone who is not a “Chuck” fan – which is probably most of you since it was almost cancelled last season -  his name is Chuck Bartowski but you can call him Charles Carmichael, super FBI agent,  and he graces our television at 8 pm. on  Mondays in one of the cheesiest, light hearted little bits of entertainment fluff around. We are addicted.)

 

10 minutes later I received the email notification that my meeting request was accepted!! It was on!

 

I excitedly pulled together the agenda, including discussion on the mission of our family meeting and the creation of a joint code of conduct.  We had time set aside to discuss topics ranging from our family budget to division of labor and reinstitution of Sunday soup and bread night.

 

Next it was off to the store for wine and snacks.

 

When Jeff arrived home the dining room was set.  The agenda sat beside a robust display of wine, meat and cheese, Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (Jeff’s favorite) and a monster cookie that comprised of 2 chocolate chip cookies with white goo in the middle and purple and orange icing fur on top with eyes.

 

How could he do anything but smile?

 

He sat down looked at the agenda and with a sparkle in his eye said “An hour? We can get this done in less than an hour. Let me start. Division of labor… I can do a lot more there.”

 

And with that, my heart stirred a little. It was happening, I was doing it. “WE” were back!

 

As the meeting proceeded there was a growing sense of excitement, anticipation for the life we were creating together and Jeff was right. We were done in 35 minutes and on the couch with Chuck in no time.  

 

The next morning I hit my desk, emboldened by the previous night’s success.  I sent out another meeting notice. 

 

Subject: “Pre-chuck Family meeting 7-8 Monday’s with wine and snacks”

Recurring: To infinity

 

Today the “snacks” are healthier and we are skipping the wine (since it’s a school night and all). We are creating our future together and back to behaving like newly-weds.

 

Where I used to say, “I have such hope for our relationship” I now see that hope realized everyday and particularly between 7 and 8 Mondays before we hang out with Chuck. And it all happened in an instant, in the moment when I reclaimed my power and took responsibility for my relationship and my life.

 

The moral of the story….

 

Just in case you were wondering, “bribe them with food” is not the moral of the story. Don’t get me wrong, it works, but that is not the point.

 

The point is that, when I was out of my power, I was whining, nagging, sometimes demanding to get my needs met. It was unattractive, threatening and definitely no fun.

 

When I reclaimed responsibility for my own life, my relationship and my ability to make a difference in my marriage, the veil of frustration was lifted. I became light, energized, confident and playful and suddenly (gasp!) my husband wanted to play!

 

The Invitation:

 

As you look around your own life, notice where you are striving, pushing, or lashing out in an attempt to get what you want.  Notice where you are disappointed or where you are waiting for someone else to make things better for you.

 

Perhaps you too want more for your marriage, or maybe you have a team to lead.  It may be a friend who is not meeting your expectations or even your boss.

 

Instead of letting frustration and resignation rule the day, instead of complaining or laying blame, take a look in the mirror and ask the person staring back the following:

 

  • What am I bringing to the table?
  • How am I contributing to this situation?
  • In what ways am I giving away my power?
  • If I truly have the power to make a difference, what action can I take?
  • If I were 100% committed to this thing I want and willing to take responsibility for what is not working, what action could I take to make it happen?
  • If I were to lighten up, what might I try differently?

 

Enjoy your chat with the person in the mirror and more power to both of you.

 

With love,

 

Joelle

Hi guys,

 

In today’s Make Your Life interview you will meet Chelsea Markel – An 18-year old thriving entrepreneur and a Teen Success Life Coach, specializing in Self-Confidence Reinvention and Effective Communication. 

 

In this interview you will get a sense of this remarkable young woman who overcame intense bullying, social exclusion and depression at a young age and went on to reclaim her power and self-confidence.  She even wrote a book about it!  She is wise beyond her years, she is one powerful Life-Maker and if you have a teenager you will want to make sure they are with you. 

 

Listening to Chelsea is sure to brighten your day and your future. Enjoy!

 

Joelle

 

 

 

Make Your Life Interview with Chelsea Markel Teen Success Coach

  

Chelsea market picture jpeg A little about Teen Success Coach Chelsea Markel …

 
At the age of 10 Chelsea experienced intense bullying and had many social problems leading to anxiety and sadness. She struggled with being the "outsider" and not having many friends during Elementary and Middle School — which left her excluded and depressed.

Inspired to make a change, she began to read personal growth and development books and listened to tapes of people like Anthony Robbins and T. Harv Eker and attended seminars which changed her outlook on life completely.

Despite these shifts she was still feeling unfulfilled because she wasn't fully using and sharing her gifts. So, what would any teenager do? She began to write a book about transforming your self-confidence and taking control of your life.

Chelsea’s book has led her to becoming a teen success life coach – with her goal being to inspire and empower teenagers to live the lifestyle they desire and show them exactly how to achieve personal greatness through her four step success process, introducing them to the brilliance that lives within them.

Chelsea is a shining example of what it looks like when a person takes responsibility and control of their lives and she will tell you herself that she is reaping the rewards in the countless blessing she has manifested.

 

 

Listen Now! Coach Joelle Interviews Chelsea Markel 

 

  

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The Make Your Life Interview Series brings you visionaries, masters and everyday people who have discovered the magic available when you live on-purpose.  In each interview you will hear inspiring stories and gain practical insights to support you in reaching beyond your circumstances, accessing your personal power and creating a life in alignment with your values, dreams and aspirations.

 


 

Hello to my fellow entrepreneurs!

 

I want to tell you about a very special event that is sure to shake up your business..  My friend and fellow coach Lisa Bloom is hosting a teleseminar called "Success Story Secrets" this Saturday the 20th.  Lisa is a Story coach (or should I say THE Story coach) and she will be illustrating how you can identify your success story and use it for breakthrough business success.

 

Read all about it below and if you have a business to grow – don’t miss it – she is masterful at what she does and it will make a huge difference in your business.

 

Enjoy!

 

Joelle

 

Do you have enough clients? 
Have you discovered your winning niche?
Is your business as successful as you had hoped?

 

My colleague Lisa Bloom, founder of Story Coach Inc., has discovered that working with clients on their success story, something magical happens. 
The breakthrough in their lives and businesses is amazing! 

 

I’m delighted to invite you to Lisa’s free teleseminar “Success Story Secrets” where you’ll learn:

 

* How finding your story is the key to discovering your winning niche.
* How trying to appeal to everyone will likely leave you broke, frustrated and possibly   even out of business!
* What are the 5 top niche discovery success techniques
* How your success story can be a magnet for attracting clients
* What are the 4 most effective stories that you can use RIGHT NOW to attract clients

 

Register for her NO COST 1-hour teleseminar to learn:

 

How Your Story is Your Success!

 

Saturday, November 20th at 3pm ET.

 

To be there live and/or get access to the replay audio, REGISTER HERE
 http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=1272127 &u=www.story-coach.com/inner1.asp?page=886&theFather=0

 

Can’t wait to hear your story ;-)

 

Joelle

Beware the Dream Stomper

Author: coach joelle
November 11, 2010

Hi guys!

 

 

I was 11 years old.  It was a typical day in the life of a 6th grader as I met my friend Damian for the 1.5 mile walk to Westwood School. In between the occasional  punch in the arm, sarcastic comments and pre-teen eye rolls we shared our stories and our hopes and plans for the future.

 

On this particular morning, along with telling Damian of my visions of becoming a prima ballerina (like the girls I met at the Royal Winnipeg Ballet who only ate bran muffins), I also mentioned casually that I might want to be a model when I grew up.

 

Damian then proceeded to tell me, in no uncertain terms, that my nose was clearly too big to be a model.

 

And that was it.  A one-minute conversation with a 11-year-old boy was enough to erase that possibility from my future. My dream of modeling died that day.  I didn’t mourn it or cry. It died quietly, the only remnants being a lingering distaste for my side profile as it always seemed to pronounce the vastness of my clearly too-big schnoz.

 

Do I blame Damian that I am not following in the footsteps of the Naomi Campbells and Cindy Crawfords of the world? No.  I’m 5’5’’ (ish) and anything over a 1.5 inch heel has me wiping out in elevators, never mind on a fashion show runway. 

 

But this is not the point!  The point is I was 11 years old, bursting full off possibility with the world at my feet and already I was closing doors on myself.  It saddens me that I let that dream die so easily.  That one uninformed comment not only killed off a future possibility but gave me a major nose complex that lasted into my late 20’s!

Plain and simple, MY DREAM GOT STOMPED ON and I am writing this article so it doesn’t happen to you.

 

 

Don’t Let It Happen To You!

 

 

Dreams come in many forms.  The dream of owning your own business, the dream of making VP, the dream of owning a home or graduating college or being a millionaire, finding love or winning an Academy Award.

 

Whether it is a deep longing or a fleeting fancy, the dreams you have are yours and I encourage you to resist the well-meaning advice of those who want to stomp on them!

 

“Don’t reach too high.” Your coworker warns.

“Why would you want to do that?” Your sister asks you with distain.

“Things like that happen to other people, not to people like us.” Dad says to make sure you don’t get too big for your britches.

 

You’re not smart enough…..

 

You’re not pretty enough….

 

You’re too old….

 

You’re too young…

 

It’s never been done before….

 

What makes you think you are so special?!…

 

To all those who wish to stomp on your dreams due to their own lack of self-confidence, their desire to hold you down, their attempts to keep you safe or their simple need to have an opinion…

 

I SAY PHOOEY!!!

 

PHOOEY! PHOOEY! PHOOEY!!!

 

Nobody gets to tell you not to follow your dream.  And if you have people around you that have a tendency to do that, please ask them to start supporting you, to keep their thoughts to themselves or to kindly move on.

 

You are wise, intuitive and resourceful and those dreams that keep tugging at you tug at you for a reason. They want to be born in your life and where there is that kind of will, there is always a way.

 

 


Passing Fancy or Destiny

 

 

Now, some dreams truly are a passing fancy. They have no teeth and their swift death would hardly be a blip on your radar but let it be you who chooses to put them out to pasture.  Let it be by your hand that they lay down for their last time.

 

Other dreams endure, even when they have been beaten down, even when they seemed impossible or you were told they were unrealistic, they keep popping their head up saying “Remember me? I’m still here waiting for you.”

 

Think about it…. do you have one of those?  Has it been poking at you for months? Years? Decades?  Is it time to reopen that dream file that was stomped closed in days gone by?

 

Believe it or not, coaching was one of those dreams for me. 

 

When I was 21, I wanted to be a coach but I didn’t know it yet, not fully.  No one stomped on that dream per se, it was just that it hardly existed back then. No one had a name for it.  I had a psychology degree and no desire to do the heart-wrenching work of a therapist.    I wanted to work with people who were happy, healthy, successful and wanted more from life.  But I didn’t know what it was called or how to make a living at it so I went into the business world.

 

Fortunately, this was one of those dreams that would not die and when I was ready to reconnect to the longings of my heart some years later, it was still there.  By 2001 I found out my dream had a name -professional coaching – along with accredited training and its own professional association. And the rest, as they say, is history.

 

Funny thing – turns out the modeling bug endured as well because, when a friend of mine in advertising asked me to sit in on a photo shoot, I was all over it!! joelle happy as a clam

 

The campaign consisted of a series of head shots depicting “the science of happy”.  They chose my picture to represent “Happy as a clam” (and not only that, my fabulous schnoz was featured on one of several 20-foot-tall banners the company hung from the rafters at a convention they held.

 

Take that, Damian! ;-)

 

 


 

 

The Invitation:

 

1)  Guard your hopes for the future from the DREAM STOMPERS of the world.  Whether they be friends, family, bosses or well-meaning strangers, your dreams are yours and you have them for a reason.  While I do not personally believe that anyone can do anything, I do believe that you can do those things that call to you or they would never have called. Do not allow others to remove them from your future – save that choice for you alone.

 

2) Check in with yourself and see if there are any previously stomped-on dreams that need resuscitating.  Don’t worry about not having all the answers. When we connect to the power of our dreams amazing things become possible.  Empires have been built in under 5 years, people have gone back to school at 70 and 80 years old, people have discovered the airplane and walked on the moon and, yes, some people with bulbous noses and average height and ½ an index finger have been paid as models. He He!

 

Your dreams are a gift of freedom and happiness to yourself and they are your precious and unique contribution to the world. 

 

Live them.

 

Gotta go.  My agent just called. :-)

 

With love,

 

Coach Joelle
 

Did you endure unreasonable dream stomping?  Do you have a dream that needs to be resuscitated?  Have you noticed how certain dreams have tended to endure even when you have tried to put them away?  We would love to hear about them!  Share in the comments below.

Hi Guys!

 

Back from a relaxing week on a beautiful ship in the sparkling blue Caribbean I’m overwhelmed with a deep appreciation. It is a wonderful thing when vacations are the icing on top of a fulfilling life as opposed to some desperate act of resuscitation.  Love it.

 

Grateful to be back on the desk I am excited to share an interview with you from the Make Your Life Interview Series.

 

Allow me to introduce Kyle MacDonald, of One Red Paper Clip fame.

 

Kyle is pretty amazing.  His energy, enthusiasm and pure audacity are truly inspiring for anyone who is out to make their life. 

 

If the name doesn’t ring a bell then perhaps this will.  

 

Kyle is the creative Canadian who traded a red novelty paperclip for …

 

….. wait for it…     ….wait for it…

 

A HOUSE!

 

It is one awesome story and he has authored a book entitled One Red Paperclip detailing his experience.   Kyle is a true adventurer and a powerful Life Maker and I am excited to share him with you in this inspiring interview!

 

Hold onto your hats! If he can cause a house from a paperclip who knows what his story will spark in your life.

 

 

Joelle

 

Make Your Life Interview with Kyle MacDonald of One Red Paperclip

 

 

 

 A little about Kyle …

 

Kyle MacDonald, author of One Red Paperclip has planted more than one hundred thousand trees, delivered more than one thousand pizzas, but eaten only one scorpion. He has also traded one red paperclip for a house only once.

Hear his amazing story as he interviews with Coach Joelle!

 

 ( NOTE: Due to technical difficulties the sound quality on my voice is pretty bad.  Kyle sounds clear so bear with me and you will get to hear all the good stuff.)

 

 Listen Now!    Coach Joelle Interviews Kyle MacDonald

  

 

 

Download instructions: To listen, right click on the link above and select "Save Target As." Pick a folder to save your audio into.  Once the audio is saved to your hard drive you can upload it to your iPod or listen to it on your computer at your leisure. Note: Due to the file size, downloading may take a few moments. Deep breath… exhale… smile… ok, it will be there any moment now  ;-)

  

 

 

The Make Your Life Interview Series brings you visionaries, masters and everyday people who have discovered the magic available when you live on-purpose.  In each interview you will hear inspiring stories and gain practical insights to support you in reaching beyond your circumstances, accessing your personal power and creating a life in alignment with your values, dreams and aspirations.


 

Hi Guys!

 

A few months back I was heading up to Sedona for a relaxing girls weekend with one of my best friends and fellow entrepreneurs. 

 

As we drove out of Phoenix, the saguaros first gave way to green mesas and then towering red rocks and, as it often does, the conversation turned to our businesses. 

 

We puzzled, pondered, cracked ourselves up and shook our heads as we discussed our daily challenges, purging them before the special energy of the vortexes and the soon to be consumed bottle of Red Zin took our minds to total chill mode.

 

As we neared the end of our debrief, I was hit by a sudden burst of inspiration.  I turned to my friend and with a wry tone and a sparkle in my eye said…

 

“Oh and don’t even get me started about the bludgeoning stab of someone unsubscribing from my newsletter!”

 

She turned to me incredulously.

 

“I was just about to say that!!” she exclaimed. “That is so painful! Why is that?”

 

How fascinating that something so small, so innocent as an “unsubscribe request”  could take two strong, confident, seasoned business people and bring them to their knees. 

 

I know we are not alone.

 

You may not have a newsletter but perhaps you make your living selling, or maybe you are seeking approval for an important project at work or perhaps you are just looking for a date!

 

And if that weren’t enough, with all the wonders of technology, the internet, and social media we have the potential to be rejected 24/7 by people half way around the world that we haven’t even met!

 

(Continued From Newsletter)

 

Pretty much anyone with a computer and an internet connection has suffered through the confusion of an unanswered email. 

 

“Whoa! Don’t they like me any more? I thought we had something but maybe I was wrong”

(I had an entire long distance romance implode because of this very thing.)

 

For the Twitter "tweeps" you may find yourself dealing with the occasional “unfollow”.

 

And for all you Facebook friends we have the unanswered or denied friend request. Or the heart-stopping shock of an “unfriending”. NOOOOOOOO!!!!

 

The faces of “rejection” are many and varied and none of us are immune to its sting.

 

While it may be tempting to hide out and avoid all human contact to avoid the immanent rejection, this will likely leave you jobless, sale-less, loveless, friendless, with limited possibilities and an ever shrinking world. 

 

The alternative of course is to toughen that skin, flex those resilience muscles and get a new take on rejection.

 

So let’s get to it!

 

 

1) “No” does not mean “you suck!”  – Stop reading between the lines

 

One of the reasons we are so rejection averse is because we often take someone’s “no thank you” and add elaborate embellishment.

 

For instance: if we go back to my newsletter story, I was taking the words, “Unsubscribe request” and somewhere between the words on the screen and my brain I created an fascinating interpretation that went something like this…

 

 

 

 

The “Rejection”

What I Added 

“Unsubscribe” =

“I don’t like you! You provide nothing of value.  I think you are a terrible coach and you just plain annoy me!”

 

 

Isn’t that rich?!

 

Now you try it.

 

When someone says “no” to your product or service do you take that as a rejection of you?

 

When your boss declines your idea do you give up, certain that no idea will ever be accepted by this killjoy?

 

When the guy (or gal) says “It’s not working for me.” Do you extrapolate that out 50 years to you sitting on the front porch in a rocking chair sad and alone?

 

Well…Stop it!

 

(Speaking of which – if you want to save a bunch on coaching check out Bob Newhart’s hilarious take on how to get over our stuff and get on with it.)

 

 

 

 

 

 Stop trying to read between the lines my friend.  I am willing to bet that no one has ever come right out and said…. 

 

“Hey, I just want you to know I REJECT YOU!!!!”

 

Let’s face it, it doesn’t happen so let’s leave story time for late night reading and when it comes to human interaction just let a “no” be a “no”.

 

 

2) It’s Not About You

 

It’s not about you.  Really!

 

The “No, I don’t want any”, the unanswered email,  the “unsubscribe” or the “unfollow’ is much more likely about that other person’s time,  need for organization,  personal preferences or cluttered inbox than about anything that has to do with you.   

 

We are all just trying to get our jobs done and make our lives work and that means saying "no" to some things and "yes" to others – ending one relationship so another more suitable one can be found,  vetoing one idea so that a more effective solution is coaxed into discovery.

 

It’s not personal.

 

Let me illustrate with a little scenario that I like to share with sales people and daters alike. 

 

 

The Orange Shirt VS The Blue Shirt

 

Let’s imagine that you sell t-shirts. 

 

You have blue shirts and orange shirts. 

 

Some people are going to prefer blue shirts and some will prefer orange, that’s just how it is. 

 

If someone prefers a blue shirt, should the orange shirt feel rejected?

 

Should the orange shirt try to convince the blue shirt people that they really need an orange shirt but they just don’t know it? 

 

Should the orange shirt berate itself for not being good enough or for not being the right color to be chosen?

 

Of course not.  Blue shirt people are going to like and purchase blue shirts and the orange shirt shouldn’t bat a sleeve at that because there are orange shirt people out there who are seeking and prefer orange shirts.

 

In the end it all works out. Everyone receives the shirt that lines up with their unique preferences and the orange and blue shirts find loving homes with their rightful owners.

 

Decode the shirt thing and the point is, just because someone doesn’t want to buy your sprinkler system doesn’t mean they don’t like you.  It could mean they don’t have a lawn. 

 


3) Rejection Is Redirection

 

Perhaps the most hopeful and enlightening piece of advice I can give on the subject was shared by a friend who attended an Anne Albers seminar.

 

Her advice on rejection?

 

“Rejection is Redirection.”

 

Simple, succinct and brilliant!

 

From this perspective, rejection is a gift, taking unsuitable clients, suitors, and ideas out of your life so that you can focus on those who are a match and the concepts that will go the distance.

 

Which brings us back to the “unsubscribe”.

 

I have found peace with it.  I have total faith that the people who are supposed to be on the path with me will be, that those I am meant to serve, our paths will cross and that those who are not a fit or who are ready to move on, they can do so freely, leaving me with a community who is ready for and interested in my message at any given moment in time.

 

Feels good. Glad you are here. (And if this gives you the final permission to unsubscribe without worrying about hurting my feelings, have at it ;-) )

 

 
The Invitation:

 

Notice where you are bending yourself in fear of rejection…

 

Notice where you are creating interpretations that make a “no” more than it really is.

 

Notice when you are taking someone else’s preferences and making them a statement about you and what is wrong with you.  Try creating a new interpretation for their choice that could foreseeably be the very best thing for all parties.

 

And finally, make friends with your “nos”. 

 

If someone removes themselves from your friend list,

 

doesn’t want to date you,

 

declines your proposal

 

or isn’t interested in what you are selling,

 

consider it a gift.  A cosmic redirection to better things for all.

 

May all your rejections be gentle and may you always have the courage to step out into the world to weather another hard won “no”.

 

Joelle

 

 

Hi Guys!

 

Nothing like a long weekend to give your life a major overhaul.  Oh I know, some people use these lazy last days of summer for BBQs or beach time but I gotta tell you, when I had 3 whole days of nothing, my immediate thought was “CREATE ORDER” … “BUILD STRUCTURE”!  And that is exactly what I did and it rocked!! 

 

I cleaned up the office, got stuff ready to put on Ebay, and coordinated special projects like  – which plays I was going to audition for this fall and  – recording my results from the latest trip to my physician and -  making a list of the supplements I’m taking and what each one serves. 

 

By Monday I was clean, clear, orderly, processed and ready to just plain chill.

 

Through my organizing I took my life to a whole new level of intention and order. This intention and order gives me time, space, grounding and mental capacity to engage in the creativity and connection that fuels my life.

 

Today we will be exploring how you can bring the power of systems to your life.

 

Enjoy!

 


 Joelle

 


A Chart, a List, a Check in the Box… The Power of Systems to Simplify and Accelerate

 

So often I have people tell me that they just can’t get it together

 


They are dropping commitments all over the place and not because they don’t want to or don’t care but often because they just can't keep track of them all.  Sometimes they jump out of the gate in earnest and with great intention but then life overshadows their burst of inspiration and in time, any thoughts of a balanced checkbook or trips to the gym fall by the wayside.

 

What usually happens next is a rousing bout of self-flagellation and talk of their “lack of will-power” or the perils of an aging mind.

 


More often than not, the problem is not that your brain is failing or that your will is weak, the challenge is that you think that will and memory alone are enough to get the job done. In most cases they are not.

 


What you need my friend, is a system.

 


Systems for Scheduling:

 


“I forgot.”

 


I hear that one a lot. 

 


I forgot to take time for myself.

 

I forgot to work out.

 

I forgot to put time into my business.

 

I forgot that I said I would think about what I want to do next with my life.

 


Oh sure, we could get all deep and call it “resistance” or “avoidance” or what have you, but over time I have come to learn that often these are simply the symptoms of a life waiting for a system.

 


One of the systems I have used religiously for over 15 years is a calendar. 

 


My calendar is open all day and I live by it. And it’s not just for appointments with others.

 


On the pages of my calendar I record every commitment I have. Anything that is important enough that it needs to get done is important enough to make it onto my calendar.

 


If I have a speaking engagement, I don’t just put down the time that I will be at the engagement;

 


• I write in travel time to make sure I have time to get there. 


• I then work backwards from the day of the main event to write in the hours of preparation required to pull it off seamlessly, often going back months to take me from conception to delivery.

 
• I’ll even block off the night before from social activities just in case the all-nighter has to happen anyway.


I have included a recent week’s activities to give you a flavor of what this can look like.

 


Outlook is my weapon of choice. The ability to set up recurring appointments is a timesaver and the color coding helps me to assess my day and week at a glance.

 


Blue are coaching calls


Purple is creativity


Red is Important/unmovable


Green is personal (yep – I keep the personal stuff here too)

 


 


If you find yourself not making time to meditate, work out, sell, write, plan or feed the cats, then I invite you to consider putting it on your calendar.

 


System Tip: If it needs to get done, it needs to get on your calendar. 

 

 

 

Systems For Mindfulness:

 


An entrepreneur client of mine wanted to be more productive at work and often found himself dawdling, doing personal stuff and avoiding what he knew he needed to do.

 


Over several coaching sessions we identified numerous key thoughts and actions that would support him in getting and staying on the right track. 

 


These included;

 


• getting organized in the morning


• cleaning his desk at the end of each day


• doing the tough stuff first (eating the frog a la Brian Tracy)


• and grouping tasks

 


He also identified that he needed to stay present – regularly coming back to the moment and checking to see if he is on task and attending to what’s important.


To keep track of these key elements to a quality day, he made a worksheet that he keeps on his desk, checking off actions and making notes on his delivery to intention throughout the day.

 

 


As a result of the daily attention to these elements, not only in this client getting more done, staying on task and developing a greater sense of pride and satisfaction in his work but he is also developing supportive and productive work habits that will be with him long after the form has served its purpose.

 

 

System Tip: Don’t leave it all up to your mind to be mindful.

 

 

 

Systems for reaching the goal:

 


We have all seen those big thermometers that are used to chart the funds raised, sales made or pairs of shoes collected.

 


Believe me, they are more than a pretty graphic.

 


The visible, measurable and track-able results of any sustained effort towards a meaningful goal is key to getting that goal accomplished.

 


It is one thing to say, “I need to make an extra $2000 to erase my credit card debt.”  and it is an entirely different thing to actually make a workable plan and track your delivery on that plan.

 


To illustrate, let me tell you about  Anne.  Anne had just moved her business to a new market and needed to reestablish a client base in her new community.

 


She had been doing some marketing but the results were unremarkable.

 


You see, Anne had gotten herself into a self-defeating cycle of trying a little and then talking herself out of it. 

 

She wondered if her effort would really pay off.

 

She wondered if she was capable.

 

She even wondered if she wanted to run the business at all or get a job. 

 

All interesting things to wonder, none of which got her into action. 

 


In order to have a breakthrough in her ability to cause in her own business Anne needed to commit in a new, meaningful and motivating way, so she decided to create a game of building her business.

 


The game was this;

 


• 20 hours a week of marketing


• Work the plan full-out until the end of September (period – no discussion on this one)


• Measure the plan daily and record progress


• Record and celebrate successes along the way

 


She created the 90-Hour Marketing Challenge (approximately 20 hours a week for 5 weeks) with a nifty little spreadsheet to match and she has been reporting every couple of days on her progress.

 


 

With this very clear plan and visual representation of how she is measuring up to her commitment, Anne is enjoying her game, building momentum and growing her capacity and her faith in her ability to produce financial results in her business and her life.


System Tip: What gets measured gets done.

 

 

 

 Systems for Accountability:

 


The entire coaching relationship is a system in itself.

 


There is something pretty powerful in knowing that you will need to account for your thoughts, words and deeds at the end of each week.  Often this structure is enough to create breakthroughs that have been previously elusive and that’s just the structure – never mind the coaching itself.

 


In addition to the accountability coaching provides, the dedicated coaching time (scheduled in your trusty calendar) is a system as well. 

 


Sort of a weekly reboot on life where you;

 


• stop,


• take stock,


•  gain clarity,


• dream up futures


• and commit to next steps.  

 


This process alone will change your life for the simple reason that it requires you to pay attention and live on purpose.

 


System Tip:  Use coaches, trainers and masterminds for structure and accountability.

 

 


 The Invitation:

 


Pick one area of your life where you would like to move forward. 

 


• Understanding your finances


• Making and keeping a budget


• Getting out of debt


• Eating healthy


• Getting to the gym


• Losing weight


• Excelling at work


• Discovering your passion


• Getting promoted


• Appreciating your partner


• Finding a partner


• Loving yourself

 


Once you have something worth your time and attention, choose one system to support your progress. 

 


  • Put daily time on your calendar to journal.

 


  • Schedule an hour a week just for you to do whatever makes your little heart happy.

 


  • Create an eating plan and check off the boxes as you eat your 5th serving of veggies.

 


  • Make a wall thermometer to measure your progress towards saving 6 months of living expenses.

 


  • Get yourself a coach or a personal trainer or jump into a program that will walk you through to your goal step by step!

 


Whatever the goal, whatever you want to create for your life, there is a system that will support it, make the ride easier and bring you closer to success.

 


Get to it!

 

 

Joelle

 

 


It has been 3 weeks since I completed my integrity experiment and having found a quiet moment I thought I would take this opportunity to close the loop on my journey.

 

 

It has been a great ride, much was learned and even more was created.

 

 

Hmmm. Let’s see….

 

  

 

1) Happy animals: 

 

 

One area of major triumph was my integrity around only eating animals that came from free roaming farms and to not contribute to the factory farming industry.  I have been acting on this for some time now but rarely with such consistency and vigilance. 

 

 

 

With free range eggs as a staple and the occasional serving of grass fed beef I have found my way to a much more vegetable centered existence and there is no experience of hardship.  When I go to a restaurant I look for the black bean soup and applaud the restaurant if they have gone to the care of having free range chicken on the menu. 

 

By taking this on in my integrity experiment it has truly helped me turn the corner to a primarily vegetarian diet as a joyful choice without the experience of hardship or sacrifice.

 

 

2) 97.5 Degrees:

 

 

raising my body temperature was another triumph.  I had been taking my temperature in an attempt to track body temperature for fertility and all that good stuff.  My temperature hanging out in the 96’s along with an unusually low metabolism drew me to conclude that thyroid may be an issue.   I dug in, asked more questions, read more and explored and with the help of my faithful chiropractor and B12 supplements my body is living in the 97’s with regularity. YAY!

 

 

The intention and action it took to take charge of this issue and make this change came directly from my experiment and I am grateful to have this small piece of my physical puzzle in place.

 

 

3) Guess Who’s Allergic To Gluten and Casin?

 

 

Out of my increased attention to health and my quest for unanswered physical questions, my doctor encouraged me to get blood tests to determine a possible gluten or casein allergy (wheat or milk) and low and behold I am positive for both of them.  I am so excited to learn this!  While milk had been pretty much dropped because of the afore mentioned ethical issues, Wasa crackers and Ezekiel sprouted grain bread have been a staple for some time. 

 

 

As I think back I can remember countless people asking if I have a cold to which I reply “no” and shrug it off as a bad phone connection. Could it be that my body has been fighting off the affects of my food all this time? Who knows, but as I turn in my whole wheat and oatmeal for Quinoa and buckwheat I am truly excited for this step towards greater health, one that I actually saw as an ultimate goal but had not yet had the motivation to act on.  Funny how life works that way.

 

 

 

4) Pondering Wine and Other “Goodies”: 

 

 

You may recall that part of this process was to experiment around the place of alcohol and sugar in my life and the findings are conclusive.

 

 

They don’t fit.  Not forever, but certainly not for now.  

 

 

Right after my crash and burn post I made a new arrangement with myself, no alcohol and no sweets until I hit 139 lbs. Why this number you ask? Well, it’s the number I have in my head and it’s not far away and historically I have demonstrated that when I play with sweets and wine it just gets in the way of this health goal so I just don’t want it in my life right now. Again, I’m not saying never, but none of it has a place as a daily installment for me.

 

 

The cool thing is that again, I feel no hardship.  Instead of wine I drink 100% cranberry juice with a little stevia. It looks like the real thing and it has a depth that is actually quite satisfying. As for the sweets, I have found that 1 tbsp of coconut, 1 tsp of raw organic cocoa powder and 1 packet of stevia with a little cinnamon is totally satisfying and I rarely ever have the need to do more than one serving. It gives me the chocolaty goodness without any of the drama.

 

 

5) Happy news on the decaf front:

 

 

Ok, one more thing about health. Since I drew a line around decaf coffee (the decaffeination process can be toxic and I cannot do strong caffeine because it makes me freaky) I have revealed some helpful information in my quest for a happy cup of coffee. 

 

 

First off, the good people at www.swisswater.com responded to one of my blog posts and shared that their process which uses water for the decaffeination process instead of solvents.  After looking into it I realized that many of my favorite coffee providers were already ahead of the curve on this one, using swiss water processed coffee in their establishments allowing me to have my “coffee without compromise.” 

 

 

Before I had discovered this decaf solution I had also made a trip to whole foods for coffee alternatives and I am quite happy to report that my new favorite drink is French roast Teeccino with unsweetened almond milk.  No caffeine, alkalizing (instead of acidic – coffee is acidic) cozy comfort in cup.

 

 

6) Meditation Shmeditation:  

 

 

Spiritually, a lot has happened due to my experiment.  I set out to meditate daily which I did for the experiment but it has not stuck afterward which is interesting.  I think I would be well served by a spiritual practice guided by someone else to get this to make this process more purposeful and meaningful.

 

 

7) One Inspired Community Coming up!:

 

 

In week 3 of my experiment I had a sudden burst of inspiration that has completely enriched my life and in a very real way created structure for me to continue to live very intentionally beyond the experiment. 

 

 

Last year a coach friend of mine suggested I do Julia Cameron’s the Artist’s Way  based on some of the things I shared with her about where my head was and what I was looking for.  I wanted to explore this but when I was cast in Beachwood Community Theaters production of the princess Snow White earlier this year I realized that rehearsal would conflict with any regularly occurring evening commitment so I put off starting the group. 

 

 

Well the idea came back to me during my experiment and it caused me to act rapidly.  I sent out an email to 10 gentle souls who I thought would like share the 12 week journey with me.  I had the email crafted and sent within the day.  I had 8 yes’s and we began the following Wednesday.

 

 

Little did I know that with this email I had managed to pull together the soulful community I had been longing for since I moved to Cleveland. In this group I am “student” not “teacher” and it is an opportunity to create, to explore, to be messy and to share love.

 

 

Who knows where we will take it after the 12 weeks of the program are complete, it doesn’t matter, all I know is that a deep need has just been filled and it happened in an instant and I am overwhelmed with gratitude.

 

 

8) Gentle Hands: 

 

 

Early on in my experiment I was called to get into action to find holistic/energetic nourishment, education and reprieve.  I started on a quest to find a spiritual mentor or a home for the next phase of my development.

 

 

I explored energy practitioners, and naturopathic resources and while I am still looking for a guide to support the elevation of my understanding of the world, I find it intriguing that a major piece of my puzzle was here all along.  

 

 

I am happy to announce that I have found a gentle place for the replenishment of my soul in the loving hands of Debbie Craven Massage Therapist, Reiki Master, Reflexologist and wise woman extraordinaire.  The first time I met Debbie she gave Jeff and I reflexology treatments at a wellness fair.  I loved her energy and have returned to her little peaceful studio for birthdays and special occasions. 

 

 

The 30 minute drive to her studio through Ohio’s beautiful countryside was a true delight for my senses and the moment I was on her table every care in the world drifted out of my head, I found blissful Zenned-out happiness, she has a real talent.

 

 

While she did her work we discussed resources, methodology and connections for me to continue my quest for spiritual deepening and physical healing.

 

 

This wonderful experience lead me to the obvious question.  “Why on earth would I save such a gift just for birthdays and special occasions?”  Debbie and I now have a standing 90 minute monthly appointment. And I look forward to our insightful conversations, and her gentle care of my body and soul.

 

 

9) I could go on but….:

 

 

I am realizing I could write much more than I am sure anyone wants to read on all of this so I am going to wrap it up by saying that my life is rising. I can feel it.  I feel light, creative, peaceful, healthy, excited, alert and alive.

 

 

I smile as I realize that my integrity experiment has really just been an exercise in Life-Making. Sometimes I do not put enough value on the work I do in the world – I don’t take myself seriously.  The truth is that being a conscious creator in life is the key to a joyful today and a beautiful tomorrow and through my experiment I essentially put every lesson in the Make Your Life Program into high gear in my life with awesome results.

 

I think I will ride this wave for awhile. My head open to possibility, my heart open to god, dancing with the magic of life.

 

 

Thank you for sharing this journey with me.

 

 

With love,

 

 

Joelle

 

 

If it is your time to reclaim the joy in your life and start taking yourself and your dreams seriously, join me for the Make Your Life Program October 13-December 8, 2010.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Has Your Future Expired?

Author: coach joelle
August 25, 2010

Some people come to me because they have a goal they want to achieve; others come in search of a deeper knowing of themselves, to shift old ingrained patterns and habits; still others come to recapture their zest for life, seeking to reconnect to joy and adventure.  And every once in while, I meet someone who is lost, floating rudderless and without mooring because they have fallen victim to their own success.

 

Have you noticed how often it is at the very pinnacle of professional achievement that we hear the Broadway actress or the successful lawyer or the best-selling author questioning “Is this all there is?”

 

Take my client Rebecca for example.  A respected doctor, proud parent and loving wife, she had been following the path to achievement for as long as she could remember.

 

Pre-med, medical school, building her practice, becoming an expert in her field, each step followed the one before as she reached for professional excellence.

 

Voted one of the top docs in her major metropolitan area and with the financial means to do whatever she wanted in life, one would expect Rebecca to be flying high.

 

Like so many, having reached the top of a mountain which she had been climbing for decades, Rebecca found herself with nowhere else to climb. Without that next challenge, her sense of purpose dwindled, without direction or motivation she found herself losing interest in her life.

 

Dissatisfied with the idea of spending the next 50 years hanging out on scenic vistas, she sought support to begin to unlock the dreams still waiting to be born. It was time for her to create a new inspired future to live into.

 

 

A Life Without An Inspired Future Is Like The Coyote Without The Roadrunner!

 

We all remember the old Looney Tunes Cartoons where Wile E. Coyote spends episode after episode in the tireless pursuit of the ever-elusive Roadrunner.

 

Imagine for a moment what Wile E’s life would become if he ever managed to catch and eat his infamous foe?

 

It would be tragic! Not just for the Roadrunner (obviously) but for Wile E. too!

 

No more concocting ingenious schemes, no more plummeting off cliffs, no more crates arriving from ACME! (As a point of interest, acme means the highest point, as of achievement or development.)

 

Wile E.'s future, the one where he catches and eats his tantalizing Roadrunner, would be expired. 

 

Left without a goal, a purpose, a raison d’etre, nothing left to compel or propel him, Wile E. would be set adrift.  Life as he knows it would cease to exist!

 

 

Inspired Future:  When we are heading towards something worthy and meaningful, weather it is building a career, exploring vegetarianism, learning to ski or seeking God, the draw of a future that inspires us, one born out of our own longing for life, pulls us into new adventures, provides opportunities for learning and gives purpose to our days.

 

Expired Future:  When we reach our goal, that thing we have been seeking, the future that we were pursuing has effectively expired.  It is behind us, a thing of the past, and without something new to pull us forward life can enter into a disconcerting and life-sucking limbo. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coach Help Me! I think My future Just Expired!

 

If you can relate with either of these stories, you may just have an Expired Future on your hands.

 

Let’s take a look:

 

Figure A) and B) below demonstrate the energizing effect of an Inspired Future; one which authentically engages you and pulls you to its completion.

 

Figure C) shows the drain that often follows the thrill of the finish-line, when you move past the vision you had and into the abyss. The future you once held so tightly no longer has value or provides meaning. It has effectively expired.

 

Figure D) holds the remedy.  By selecting a new, heartfelt and worthy point on the horizon you put the wind back in your sales with a new Inspired Future.

 

Does this mean that we must forever be in the dogged pursuit of lofty goals, fame, money, success – always accomplishing without a moment to breathe or rest in order to live a good life?

 

No, of course not.  But it does mean that your life needs purpose.

 

Whether it is exploring the practice of being in the moment, learning to paint or seeking to be the best spouse or parent you can be, no goal is too great or too small to be inspired. It must simply come from the authentic longings of your heart.

 

The invitation:

 

The next time you happen to be rounding out a major accomplishment:

 

1) Be sure to celebrate, BIG TIME!

 

2) When the excitement wears off and you find yourself wondering “what’s next?”, remember that it is natural to feel a little disconnected, uninspired or let down after the future you once courageously pursued is old news.  Do not fear.  This feeling need only be temporary. 

 

3) Reconnect and reengage in your life – look, listen, explore.  There is always a new Inspired Future waiting to bring energy, joy and meaning to your days.

 

It may take some soul searching but trust me.  With as many worthy journeys as there are drops of water in the ocean, it is only a matter of time and intention before life sweeps you up in a new adventure.

 

With Love,

 

Joelle

 

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